The problem with spirals is that they are hard to stop once they have gained momentum.
In Europe, enforcing wage demands requires a) trade unions and b) industry-wide collective agreements. Both are infinitely(!) weaker than in the 70s. I don’t even know if there is still a single industry-wide collective agreement anywhere. They used to be the standard. Setting such a spiral in motion is much more difficult than in the 70s. In the USA, with their hyper-mobile labor market, you have a completely different system; it cannot be compared, as is currently becoming clear again. They are already near full employment and a hot economy. But here? Nothing!
The spreading of interest rates is the normal state, after all the market regulates this according to perceived risk. The abnormal condition is that the central bank sets the interest rates for individual countries.
In a monetary union, this is NOT the normal state. This only applies to different currencies. If you want that as the normal state, you must not create a monetary union.
If individual parts of a union have different economic strength and develop differently, then that must be solved politically.
The political solution was the common inflation target of 2%. With the result that basically only France adhered to it. One of the biggest deviators was Germany. Which is because people firmly BELIEVE that it is the central bank that “controls” inflation and that they themselves don’t have to do anything. That is simply a mistake, based on a false economic theory. If you do not want or cannot control inflation around that 2% with fiscal policy, you cannot keep a monetary union stable. Q. e. d.
The problem is less the end of purchase programs and more that the market was distorted beforehand.
This “distortion” was one of the declared goals of the monetary union: to become so large that carry trades, i.e., currency speculations by large investors, break against the central bank. Because these trades are by definition “the market,” but regularly lead to currencies being valued nonsensically. The same applies as above: if you don’t want this, you cannot have a monetary union. In summary, you offer arguments that are valid for a national currency and furthermore require certain premises, the most important of which is some kind of “equilibrium” of prices, demand, and interest rates. I, on the other hand, argue that we de facto do not have our own currency (different mechanism) and that this “equilibrium” is a crutch invented by economists to build their theoretical constructs. Neither is an equilibrium of anything required to describe the economy, nor has it ever been empirically found anywhere. It is a requirement of certain schools of economic thought, not a fact and never observed empirically. But something positive: Should the system fall apart because of the spreads, we will get our own currency back, which will appreciate overnight so much that our export model is broken. Then hardly anyone will be able to afford building anymore, but for those who still can, it will become really cheap again ;-) .