There are always exceptions.
In the first part, I talked about myself, among other things, and I also managed to achieve something in the end. Although I am only a manager, not a professor.
But on average, there are just far too many children who fall through the cracks due to the poor caregiver-to-child ratio.
That may be less acute in a Bavarian village than in Berlin or Frankfurt.
Personally, I am also critical of federalism here. I think it is a mistake that every state does its own thing when it comes to school education.
Adjustments unfortunately mostly go downwards.
Just being a manager is good. A lot depends on how the parents behave. You also went to grammar school, if I read your upper text. Some wouldn't have been allowed. Even in my class, there were girls who shouldn't have gone to a higher school, but rather get married. Oh, when my grandpa heard such remarks, he went through the roof. He still had to pay school fees and the bus for my mother so she could go to the English ladies for her intermediate school certificate. That was only financially possible back then because his brother sent dollars from the USA.
Villages have a different structure with all their advantages and disadvantages. Our community is not exactly small. It is not rich, but debt-free. To stay with the school topic, we have 7 flexible classes with between 21 and 27 children. 6 daycare centers with between 20 and 150 children each. It is also difficult to maintain caregiver-to-child ratios there. Because the daycare centers, including after-school care and all-day schools, are run by clubs, the influence of parents is greater. A lot runs through voluntary work. There is even more "pressure" in rural areas. Someone will sometimes say, "You don’t lift a finger but want a lot..."
But one thing I have to say, the children who cause gray hairs at the bus stop in the morning are usually not the children from socially disadvantaged areas. The rough stuff is more often done by the upper class.