Wait with the building application because of the child construction allowance

I am also AE, but to be honest, I can't really understand your child's registration situation ... Or do you have a 50:50 model?

My daughter is of course registered with me, and we have not registered a second residence with the father for her (why would we?)

However, we also more or less live according to the "classic" model ...

If after a separation the shared apartment is kept, then the children remain registered there as well, a change requires the consent of both parents, at least with joint custody. I moved out because we lived in his house, which belongs only to him. And he did not agree to a change of the main residence. Therefore, the main residence of the children is with him, but he agreed to the registration of a secondary residence.

According to registration law, the main residence should be where the children mostly stay, which would indeed be with me. However, this can only be enforced legally, according to the local registration office, but I am reluctant to take this path – we still have to take care of the children together in the future. So far, it has not played any role in practical matters. We care for them about 4:3, so almost half and half.

Strange thing ... I'm sorry that you're having such trouble with this, especially since I don't see any advantage for the child's father in his stance.

Indeed, I see a problem with the [Baukindergeld] in this situation.
In your case, you probably won't be able to avoid an email.

Good luck!

So far, it has not played any role in practical matters.

For example, a friend did not receive housing benefit because the child’s main residence was not with her. Better to take care of it early before the legal enforcement outlasts the application period for the Baukindergeld.

: there are also no advantages, it’s purely an emotional thing. For me until now as well, but now it’s becoming practically important. I tried to stay at least somewhat objective, but I guess it’s already become clear that we didn’t part on good terms. That’s why things are very difficult.

@ Dr. Hix: so far he has simply refused my request regarding the cervical spine. I will now go to him and talk to him, saying that it’s now about real money, maybe that will convince him. Otherwise... no idea, should I really sue him?

Maybe you can agree that after the application is submitted, the residence is reported back.