Floor plan planning shortly before submitting the building application

To me, when reading the last posts, it looks like you haven't adapted your behavior in an area where people more or less accept each other as neighbors and live side by side.

But you haven't read all the posts correctly. First, there is only one neighbor where such dissonances exist, and secondly, these "problems" exist with at least one other neighbor. If you believe this neighbor (who lives in the other new building), then the said neighbor is not accepted and adapted to the established neighborhood. They were given hints from multiple sides that it is a great neighborhood........ except for ....... that's how they conveyed it to me. And I did not bring up the topic, because I don't believe in talking about one neighbor to another.

Several other neighbors are certainly happy that we are coming; so we can't be that terribly formal and overly correct. We have sometimes sat together in the garden, exchanged ideas, etc. - they watch the construction site and get in touch if something is wrong.....

I find it pretty extreme to indirectly defend the one who just throws greenery onto someone else's property like a bull in a china shop and to look for the blame with us. Neighbors can be as unsympathetic as possible to me, but for God's sake, I wouldn't simply interfere with their property, and things that affect both would be discussed with the biggest troublemaker beforehand.

You didn't read all the posts correctly...

We have a different opinion on that.

We have different opinions on that

Ok, accepted!

Would you still be so kind and show me where you get the assessment from that people "already more or less accept each other as neighbors and live side by side"? I can't understand how that can be interpreted from what I wrote.

Who are you referring to there? I actually only wrote about the neighbors with the second new building and it really was not to be read from that that people accept each other there. I would like to understand that. Of course, you can assess that this other new resident lied with his statement, that other neighbors also had bad experiences with said persons. That would then mean they are probably just as nonconformist and out of place in the neighborhood as we are?

I think as long as the neighbor doesn't party on the terrace until midnight, like Lumpi's neighbor:...

I don't think you messed anything up there. On the other hand, I also don't think you considered how to defuse the situation. The question here is probably whether you want to accommodate the neighbor again, even though you are right? Very disarming, for example, is a hug.

Coffee and cake could also already make a difference. How important is the matter to you?

How important is this matter to you?

For me, it’s actually mostly about the principle. I am not anyone’s lackey for a neighbor and have more than enough to deal with regarding the house construction. But above all, I am worried that such people will take more and more liberties the more you let them get away with it.

Let’s put it this way. If I knew that in the future everyone would be left in peace and everyone would live in harmony, then I would also sleep calmly if the stuff remained there. But that also means that any respect on my part is lost and I have no desire to discuss more than the bare minimum.

I had even considered defusing the situation beforehand. He once said that the old chain-link fence on the property boundary bothered him. The suggestion was that we dispose of it with the construction debris. HE was even allowed to place it on our property. But what did he do? The fence is still there today; instead, the greenery, which was never mentioned, was thrown over to our side.

Well, we will solve it and I’d rather take care of the construction-related matters around our project again now.

I think only you on site can properly assess the situation. I am also against letting [Hornochsen] get away with everything and constantly giving in. I also like to tell such people my opinion - they need that.

Other than that, I am rather peace-loving.