Floor plan planning shortly before submitting the building application

That is actually all exciting like RTL2

That is actually all as exciting as RTL2

It's simply a shame. We wanted a good start and to do everything right. But what the other neighbors say suggests that it is not primarily my fault.

However, engaging for good neighborliness and letting oneself be walked over are two different things.

I think, in any case, that he is upset about something which has only superficially or not at all to do with currently recognizable circumstances or facts.

I think the displeasure arises to the right and left next to his property when he compares his own to them. That’s how it looks. In the background you can see the other mentioned new building. I could imagine that maybe envy or resentment is playing a role. Suddenly two new owners come along who put up fancy houses or even villas on the right and left, and you yourself can’t keep up. One has a Star (Mercedes emblem) in front of the garage, the other always shows up with Blue-White (BMW) colors. He himself usually takes the S-Bahn, as far as I understand. I wouldn’t have a problem with something like that if there were a villa with a pool next to me, or a neighbor with a Ferrari or whatever. But there are certainly people who have a problem with such things. I find it a pity. But I can’t change it.

I like people who take the S-Bahn [emoji4] and I really find the older house quite pretty. I think what you just said sounds very much like a snobbish prejudice.

I think that sounds very much like a snobbish prejudice, what you just took for granted.

That was not intended. I simply can’t think of any other reasonable reason, referring to 11ants’ statement that there must be a deeper reason. And since the neighbors of the other new building made this assumption because they have more or less had the same experiences, I thought it might actually be the case.

I really don’t care at all how someone gets around. I was only looking for an explanation. And through the Ferrari, I also conveyed that there are still people who can afford a bit more. Some don’t care about that, others do. Of course, I don’t know if that is ultimately really the correct explanation. We could all not care, unless one would find a reason that can be dismissed.

I apologize again that it came across as so arrogant. That really was not my intention.

Well, my opinion on why he is definitely upset is mentioned above, but only indirectly.

I have already mentioned that the immediate neighborhood may not have anything to do with friendship, but is rather seen as a _private environment_. And there, a casual demeanor counts more than a formally correct one. The latter is then more often seen as snobbish.

To me, reading the last posts, it seems as if you have not adapted your behavior in an area where people already more or less accept each other as neighbors and live side by side. Even less so have you initially subordinated yourself defensively. It sounds awkward, sounds even worse, but just formally referring to your rights does not go down well.

And even if you think you don’t need to be friendly toward a neighbor (even if he is the biggest a*** in the world...), this kind of behavior comes back as well. You can get along well with an a*** without crawling.

This is rarely envy. Usually, the behavior of the younger generation is somewhat strange – especially when they can afford certain things.

I know you have a different opinion, but you can ponder it [emoji6]