Eating out, vacation, housekeeping help, additional savings: all still possible.
And these are the "nice" things for which there is easily money left over if you don’t have to pay "excessive" demands depending on the financial situation – for friends of ours, it was recently determined that he has an untreatable (but thankfully not lethal) heart condition in his mid-40s, which makes his future work biography pretty uncertain. How grateful this family is that they own an older house, which was renovated with a lot of personal effort and has so far fit very comfortably into the finances. Thanks to the relatively low loan installments, which will be paid off in a few years, the family is currently only worried about his health and not additionally about their finances…
No one can know what may come, but at least to factor possible misfortunes at least roughly into the financing of the property and thus, for example, to forego one or the other "must-have" (depending on one’s own budget) was very important to my husband and me. For example, we still live in our existing building with the very old interior doors (and quite well) – now, almost 8 years after moving in, we will finally probably renovate them, as the children are older and the financial situation is significantly more relaxed...