Construction progress: Duplex with WU basement and developed attic

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Hausbau0815

2022-07-22 09:02:11
  • #1
No, for that [Wochenende] full shifts of up to 15 hours/day, and if it's tough, even 18.
 

Tassimat

2022-07-22 09:13:13
  • #2
Don’t you think they would have ordered an assessment anyway, even if you had taken charge yourself? Couldn’t you still have contested the 130% route? Now it is probably too late for that. Let’s hope that the judge, when saying "also take this into account," does not still aim for a settlement that only "takes you into account." I can only recommend that in the future you don’t always try to fight everything alone. Are all your children already adults? Then there are six adults; in cases like this, even on weekends, you can find a good approach. You can actively demand this, because there are five family members besides you, not five spectators.
 

aero2016

2022-07-22 09:47:01
  • #3

It's always about blame and being right for you, isn't it? My mother was like that too. First, she decided who was to blame, then the most important thing was settled for her. It's the same for you, right? Once the blame is established, you already feel better.


This is not just a truism, but it helps to find inner peace.
I wish that you don’t suffer a heart attack from the stress in a few months or a few years and then have "but I was right!" written on your tombstone.

You are not perfectionistic, you are pedantic.
 

i_b_n_a_n

2022-07-22 10:39:33
  • #4
The question is whether there is any willingness at all to work on oneself, to change one's behavior. And as I understood the OP, there isn’t. So she copes with the situation but realizes that a) others see it differently and certainly shouldn’t do as she does, and b) it also “gets to her kidneys.”

In conversations with psychotherapists (I have clients who are training in psychiatry) I understood that a "reprogramming" of the brain (behavior) can hardly (never) be done alone. Even famous psychiatrists had/have someone for supervision to reflect on and optimize their own behavior. And if the will is missing, it won’t work anyway, as you can see with every addict.

Life wisdom: Everyone has to find out for themselves what they do with the one and only life of limited duration that they have.

P.S. My family occasionally has such a tendency to want to give me advice for certain areas of life :oops:
P.P.S There was a time when I worked about 50 hours a week (self-employed) and then drove an hour to a restaurant to work there on Saturdays and Sundays. THAT was not good and I was glad that story ended after a year.
 

Hausbau0815

2022-07-23 00:43:19
  • #5

Why "only life"? That is not proven. Maybe this limited time here is just a test. But I think now I am drifting too far off topic.
 

Hausbau0815

2023-01-08 20:14:17
  • #6
So, we are (almost) finished. In any case, the second semi-detached house is now also finished except for a few minor details.


 
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