Hello Katja, from my side a final contribution to this, I would have preferred to write this to you personally, which is not possible:
Unlike your aggressive and completely out of control behavior, I wanted to address you personally to clarify the matter between us. For that, I saved you. However, it was not possible because I had not written enough posts yet.
I actually believe you that you only "followed" me because you wanted to address me directly later!
The fact that shortly before that you accused me of a witch hunt and then "followed" me as the supposedly hunted one, in itself carried a piece of situational comedy for me. I was particularly upset about your in my opinion inappropriate choice of words.
Ultimately, that was exactly what it was about:
Quote: “No, it was about us being too poor to keep the parental home in the event of inheritance as a result of the real estate bubble.”
In your comparatively rather casual case, claiming the term "poverty" for yourself I found somewhat lacking in appreciation for people who actually have to or had to experience poverty.
That one does not rejoice at a tax back payment, I do understand though.
Quote: “....a kind of expropriation.... forced to sell,” "in truth however loses his [I]home, it doesn't matter at all..."[/I]
Here too, I was disturbed by the inflationary use of such words in your comparatively luxurious position, where in the end it is "only" about money and not about expropriation or loss of home.
Just look at TV and see what expropriation, loss of home/parental home actually means and where such wording is appropriate and fitting and where it is not. For me, such wording would almost be forbidden, because I am still aware of how cushioned we have lived so far compared to most other people.
I understood your "problem" purely factually, but not at all the drastic choice of words.
This choice of words probably triggered me especially because my parental home came from displaced persons who had
actually experienced expropriation as well as loss of parental home and family, how much they would have liked to have avoided that through a tax payment; that has affected us all deeply.
I thought of "Jana from Kassel," who noticeably and visibly felt a kind of injustice and seemed affected, but her comparison to her own situation was completely off.
It seems to me you are very unhappy here in Saxony. Of course, the Saxons and especially I are to blame, presumably.
Luckily, we do not have such stereotypical divisive feelings between people from different (federal) states, otherwise my wife would not be married to me nor would we have moved here or even been able to live abroad. We do not care at all about the name of the (federal) state, so far we have felt comfortable everywhere.
Am I very unhappy?
Basically no, but whenever I encounter xenophobic things, I am sad in that moment and also ashamed, for example, if my visitor from the "West" or my son living here has to read or hear such things. That is why I am already bothered by such careless harmful wording and I would be very glad if we could finally get that out of our heads.
Oh dear, that will be hard for you here.
Why should it become hard "here" for us ... and what does this "here" mean or what is different than elsewhere that could make it harder?
If that were actually the case, it would rather be embarrassing for the "here".
Ultimately, it is such that we would also change things if they no longer fit us, because in the end it is just a house, we define the term "home" differently.
But we like living in the new house "here" and it is solely up to us which people we surround ourselves with; this is no different here in Saxony than anywhere else, because there is no SUCH Saxon or SUCH Arab, THE woman or THE teacher, even if some like to believe that for simplicity's sake.
, as a person and human being I absolutely did not want to defame you, how could I, where I do not even know you. If that impression was created, I would be sorry!