Nice to read that you are already feeling a bit better today and that you can even rationally list the pro arguments for your construction project as a response to the post by [HilfeHilfe], which suggests that you should definitely let it sit for a few more days to see how your emotional state develops. A friend just told me about similar behaviors in her partner after the birth of their child; he was useless for 10 days, had panic about responsibility, fear of change... and suddenly it was over, and now he has relaxed into his new role and is enjoying the wonderful time with his little son. Regardless of whether you want to seek professional help, a request to the other forum participants: If you have never been in a psychological crisis situation yourself or never witnessed someone live who was, please hold back from harsh judgments like "The crisis hotline is not for such trivial issues" (yes! it is exactly for that, just like for desperate teens after their first breakup, for example) or "As a wife, I wouldn't tolerate that for long." The mental barrier to seek help is already big enough for those affected, and especially this thinking that men must never show even the slightest weakness leads to the negative spiral not being broken but rather fueled further. No one wants to suffer from panic attacks, depression, or burnout, and ideally, one should experience understanding and support; that is actually a completely normal reaction to a person asking for help, even if you don’t know them personally, but especially if you are married to them.