Well, whatever. My/our decision will have consequences no matter which direction it takes.
I find this sentence interesting because it really sums up life itself well. Every decision you make has consequences, both small and large. Now you really just need to find out why the consequences of this particular decision scare you so much more than other decisions you’ve already made. Children and a marriage—which can end happily but also unhappily—have, in my opinion, much more significant consequences; with your spouse and your children, you remain connected forever and are actually responsible for your children as long as you live. But that doesn’t scare you at all, which is good because family is also something beautiful; but why does the house, which you can sell again at any time, trigger such a strong reaction in comparison? Why do you believe that you can be a good husband and father, but not also a “good” homeowner/home financier? I haven’t quite understood that from your thread yet and suspect that you will know what to do (sell again or not) when you’ve found the answer for yourself. If you like, keep us updated on what you decide. And try to keep in mind that in life there are very few exceptions where you can’t change direction or make a better decision after a wrong one. Whether you as a family stay in this house, another house, or an apartment, your life together can be great everywhere and will have its lows everywhere as well.