Selling new construction after receiving funding / Wohnriester - possible?

Still, I don't think the problem really lies in the neighbor's music.
If you let yourself be so upset and completely thrown off by such a 'small thing,' then something is fundamentally wrong.
That has nothing to do with sensitivity anymore. I also don't like background droning music at all, so in principle I understand the problem.
You speak of hatred, you don't even like the house anymore, you just want to leave, etc.
I see a deeper problem here; a fairly balanced and content person wouldn't let it get this far.
Furthermore, you obviously can't even remotely manage to talk to the neighbor. I don't understand that either.
I'm sure that the step alone, telling him that he often listens to music and you fully get it and it ruins your day, will really help you move forward. Just having said it will do you good.
Apart from that, with or without help, you will have to look inward and explore what makes you so dissatisfied / vulnerable that it could come to this at all. Working only with the approach that one is just sensitive and others should be considerate is neither realistic nor productive.

I have already explained this 15 times now, so I will not elaborate again. Just this much: Because one is not sensitized to something themselves, one should not deny it to other people. I have undergone therapy (for a longer time) and it did me a lot of good. It also taught me that sometimes it is not me who is broken but others.

And before this comes up again: Yes, I have talked to the neighbor. Several times already. He knows that it comes through to us and that it annoys me. He has also turned it down, but it still annoys me. He believes that he is allowed to have music on at room volume while doing garden work. Legally this is debatable; local courts handle such matters constantly, I have no patience for that.

Anyway, if after 29 pages we could try to move away from my neighbor and back to my original post:

- Has anyone had concrete experience with selling a relatively new building and replacing it with another property?
- Are there alternative ideas to a detached farmhouse in Northern Germany? Since all this is currently hypothetical, I am also considering moving somewhere completely different, that is, to another federal state – maybe Rhineland-Palatinate / Saarland; that would be nice for the kids because we have family there.
- Would you look for an existing property or would a new build still be an option?
- How does one manage the financing? We obviously cannot sell a house and build a new one simultaneously, so we would have to do this one after the other (bridge financing?) or we would have to find accommodation elsewhere for a year?

Nevertheless, I don't believe that the problem really lies in the neighbor's music.
If you let yourself get so upset and completely thrown off by such a 'small thing,' then something is fundamentally wrong.
That has nothing to do with sensitivity anymore. I don't like background noise either; in principle, I do understand the problem.
You talk about hate, you don't like the house anymore, you just want to get away, etc.
I see a deeper issue here; a reasonably balanced and content person wouldn't let it get that far.
Furthermore, you obviously can't even begin to talk to the neighbor. I don't understand that either.
I'm sure that just taking the step to tell him that he listens to music very often and you fully notice it and it ruins your day will really help you. Just having said it will do you good.
Apart from that, with or without help, you will have to look inward and explore what makes you so dissatisfied/vulnerable that it got to this point at all. Working on the premise alone that one is just sensitive and others should be considerate is neither realistic nor productive.

I have already written something like this several pages ago. But it doesn't help to write it multiple times if the OP doesn't realize it and admit it to themselves. Then the problem remains, and solving it is much more complicated and financially costly than it might need to be.

I already wrote something like that several pages ago. But it’s no use writing it multiple times if the OP doesn’t see it and admit it. Then the problem remains, and the solution becomes much more complicated and financially more expensive than possibly necessary.

We are going in circles. I never claimed that the problem wasn’t my fault. I admit that, and by now the question of blame is completely irrelevant to me. The situation where I hear country music every time I open my balcony door is unbearable for me in the long term. There are only two options: he stops it or I have to leave here. For alternative 2, I asked for advice here (already in the opening post). I think the 30 pages about my neighbor are enough now.

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Why should I have the plants I bought planted by him? ... etc.

It's not about one party doing the work in a "we," but the "we" should arise from the fact of togetherness.
For example, my wife couldn't care less about a front door, yet I would say that we decided on a new front door.
Well, of course, it can also be written unintentionally and does not have to be analyzed or even justified.

It's not about the other party doing the work in an "us," but rather the "us" should arise from the fact of togetherness. My wife, for example, couldn't care less about a front door, yet I would say that we decided on a new front door. Well, of course, it can also be written unintentionally and doesn't need to be elaborated or even justified.

Yes, I understand, everyone can do as they please. I just mean that I have painstakingly learned over the years not to express myself vaguely but to say specifically "I want" instead of "could one please," and I'm a bit proud of that, so I'm living it out to the fullest now. ME ME ME. :P

The neighbor is not responsible for the hypersensitivity of the neighbor lady and therefore I personally would not restrict myself in that regard.

He should definitely be given the opportunity to be considerate. Not all people with different tastes in music are too stupid to think about differences in sensitivity. I would not give up in principle that the neighbor could be motivated to do so. From what one otherwise reads about him here, he is obviously not of an antisocial nature. Many peculiarities—especially those that one does not see in their neighbors—simply "aren't on the radar" of many people without any deliberate stupidity.