How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

We agree that something else is wrong if one cannot decide on a plaster for ages.

Planning, both, until agreement. Cash register check. Determination of the maxx budget. Agreed. G searching. Agreed, she insisted strongly on the one chosen, I was also fine with him. Muster setting depended on the cash register check, the few extras agreed, in aesthetic matters she was the spokesperson. Kitchen. she Floors, both until agreed Paving etc. ditto Roof color red, I K.

We have had this discussion here before. Very interesting. People who do not budge from their standpoint take themselves too seriously.

But if arguments are about trivial things like the tile, the problem lies somewhere else.

Yes, but not necessarily in the relationship, rather each with themselves.

Tile, window color, etc., etc.: All nonsense that you can discuss but shouldn’t fight about,

Exactly: whether light or dark gray, it doesn’t matter!

Anyone who can’t handle these petty questions shouldn’t build together at all because they don’t belong together in the long run.

Not necessarily. Each person should question why their opinion matters more. Unfortunately, this cannot be easily analyzed by the person themselves...

Team spirit

... is what makes it so that you hold back yourself to see the other happy.

Not being able to agree "until today" (how long has this been going on?) on a namby-pamby thing like a tile is not an argument, not a discussion, but simply a problem that points to even deeper problems that a building couple should not have...

Right! Possibly power play. They haven’t yet found their proper role in the relationship.

And here are a few tips from someone who is responsible for decoration and design, but has a husband who also has his own ideas and can be very, very stubborn and stubborn. You can only give rough tips because everyone reacts differently.

Beforehand, go to a tile exhibition and test your partner.
First matte or glossy, big or small... that triggers a mental movie in the more creative partner... and usually there are tiles later that suit both. Amateurs and accessories are then chosen accordingly and not again by "taste." Of course, they also have to look good.

The biggest mistake is to stubbornly have very precise ideas beforehand that must lead to an uproar if there is inequality. There are so many different tiles (also applies to flooring, etc.) that you would have to call it a personality disorder if there is no overlap that appeals to both.
You should also be open to new things... not dismiss right away, for example with new colors...
There are also things that don’t matter much to you. You can really hand over the decision then.

Basically, it does not matter in the end whether you pee in a square or round way, whether you stick mosaic or large formats on the walls.

But I realize, I’m easy to say. If I had a partner who absolutely wanted something ugly or old-fashioned and then stood stubbornly like a child and wanted to enforce it, I’d have a problem too. But then I probably wouldn’t have built a house with him.

Talk about these kinds of problems beforehand before becoming irrational on site.
Allow yourselves spaces for decision-making if you are both too dominant.
Be free in advance in your ideas about how something MUST be. There is no MUST, there CAN be, there MAY be...

Not being able to agree on a squabble like a band-aid "to this day" (how long has that been going on?), is not a dispute, not a discussion, but simply a problem that points to even deeper issues that a building couple shouldn’t have...

(A couple on its own in my opinion shouldn’t, but whatever)

Interesting question...

Here I fully agree with chand, anyone who argues or discusses for days, weeks, or months over unimportant stuff without any result should just stop doing it.

We are doing quite well with the method “there is only one boss” who takes care of everything (financing, planning, coordinating trades). I do everything and basically think ahead, and my wife takes over when I hit a block. She gets every idea presented and either approves it or rejects it with a counterproposal. If it doesn’t fit, then an alternative has to be found, which in turn is coordinated. This worked that way with the bank (financial planning), the house (materials, floor plans, equipment, standard), and the kitchen. My wife takes over the planning of the interior design and the garden.

But that only works because we have been together forever :-p or rather we know what the other likes or doesn’t like and there is also the trust that one does not take advantage of the other.

how am I supposed to interpret your laughter regarding my post? What made you laugh or was it a mocking laugh?

how am I supposed to interpret your laughter regarding my post? What made you laugh or was it mocking?

You fully took advantage of your husband's color blindness. Disgusting
But I find it legitimate.
(And yes, I know, none of it was conscious on your part, it was just a coincidence )