How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

You fully took advantage of your husband's color blindness. Disgusting I think it's legitimate though. (And yes, I know, not conscious on your part, just a coincidence )

No, no...HE always says that I should decide because he simply doesn't see the nuances and doesn't want it to look ugly for everyone except him afterward, because nothing matches.

Maybe there is simply no money left for the plaster(s), and the inability to reach an agreement is just being used as an excuse

Well, then it's all good

At some point during the early phase, pragmatism won against both of us.

I wonder how people even manage to get to the cobblestones with arguments.
Towards the end, we were both glad that the paver showed us exactly three different stones and we didn't have to "look at stones" with a baby in tow.

For example, my wife had found a few of her own early wishes/highlights that were important to her. In such cases, one should give the partner as free a hand as possible and not interfere.

Full agreement. Some clearly have a brick in their head. Both teachers or civil servants or Dr Dr.

Are you already expecting quarrels?

No. But I'm the type who likes to arrange as much as possible from the start to have less stress later. I can still clearly remember furnishing our apartment. I like antiques, Biedermeier style, and I have one or two pieces of furniture - she prefers a more modern style, colorful LEDs, etc. She can't stand dark brown furniture. There were already minor discussions back then. But we always found compromises.

Regarding the couple with the missing pavement: He probably wanted a very specific pattern to be paved (a club logo?). She doesn't like that at all and finds the idea dreadful. In my opinion, it depends on what was discussed beforehand and whether I had given way elsewhere before to fulfill a heartfelt wish here. Possibly agreeing to the idea beforehand and then being told "too bad" afterwards would make me feel pushed aside if I just gave in like that. I don't think this can only happen in couples that are already having problems.