How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

Gifts can even be taken back unless explicitly agreed upon in the prenuptial agreement. Incredible but true. I just shook my head when my friend and notary told me this. It has happened a few times recently. After the separation, the woman had to return the gifts because she only had them for representative purposes.... Although this does not correspond to my idea of a gift, that’s how it is. So it’s better to conclude a proper prenuptial agreement. Here the law also protects both sides ([Thema Sittenwidrigkeit]).

I personally do NOT live by the motto "Happy wife, happy life". My partner leads a very independent life. That's why we're together.

So your wife doesn't have to be grateful because she contributes equally, or how am I supposed to understand that? In an equal relationship, there is no place for gratitude, but rather, as correctly writes, the appreciation of the mutual contributions. If, as a woman, I - take care of the children together, manage the household, maintain the garden... - hold back in my career (even though I certainly don’t have a sales job, but pursue a fulfilling profession!!!) and - support my partner in his extensive professional development, and then at the end have to hear that I haven’t contributed anything... I feel NO appreciation at all!! By now, it is therefore extremely important to me to stand firmly on my own feet.

I am somewhat surprised that you are all arguing heatedly about Farilo's understanding of partnership. There are so many types of relationships in which two people are happy. It is not always the case that giving and taking (in every sense) is balanced, yet it is perfect for both.

On the topic: My husband and I were lucky in that, for the most part, we were actually on the same wavelength. Otherwise, we handle it so that for things that are not so important to me, he decides, and vice versa. For tough nuts, we would negotiate with the motto: "If you decide this, then I get to choose that." But this only happened once or twice.
Sometimes I was even glad that he prevailed in the end, as it turned out to be the better decision in hindsight. Likewise, there were things where I am still glad that I decided (when it comes to colors, he is a hopeless case).

Everything a bit strange. I stick to it. All the account separators are ultimately more unfortunate.

I don't believe that HilfeHilfe. Possibly under normal circumstances, but as soon as companies, etc. are involved, the situation looks different. Often one is also forced to make arrangements. On the contrary, we are glad to have everything settled. This way it will never become a problem. However, we are certainly a special case and also do not have children. My wife is independent and earns well. Additionally, there are contractual arrangements. If there are occasional disagreements like in every relationship, it is never because of money.

Everything is a bit strange. I stick to it. All the separate accounts are ultimately more unfortunate.

Only if both maintain the same spending discipline. In the "frugal person loves spender" constellation, a joint account is practically a recipe for disaster.