How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

I'm going to get chips now and I'm out for a bit.

Sorry, wenn ich das so direkt sage, aber: selten soviel Schwachsinn in ein paar Sätzen gelesen.

Now, now, don’t lose your temper, you egomen

2.) with his lack of expertise in opinion strength If, after the children move out, a void should enter the relationship, it has to do with too few commonalities, life plans that basically do not aim in the same direction. What exactly this has to do with account management would have to be explained. I claim: Nothing!

I stand by it = this yours and mine of account management disqualifies any marriage. It may have advantages for the self-employed but not for employees. Didn't pay attention at the wedding? Or what do you do when the partner is in need?? Oh no, you have your own money anyway

stay with it = this yours and mine of account management disqualifies any marriage. May have advantages for the self-employed but not for employees. Didn't pay attention when getting married? Or what do you do when the partner is in need?? Oh no, you have your own money

I would like to see a statistic showing how many people think and live exactly like that, including those who earn significantly more in the relationship (without children). I would not be surprised if this statistic is more than clear. Note for the various misinterpreters here in the forum: This post is not intended to be a judgment on my part. I would just actually be interested.

in turn is grateful to her husband because he loves her as she is? For me, that is diminishing oneself, as if she were not worthy? If she says she appreciates his tolerance towards her quirks, it is equal partnership.

Well, you just don’t know me – I am definitely not diminishing myself. I think gratitude also has nothing to do with diminishing oneself, and I don’t feel less worthy because I appreciate what I have in him AND, I gladly repeat, am also grateful for it.

What is absolutely not acceptable to me is demanding gratitude and the right to make solitary decisions due to financial superiority. For me, that simply has nothing to do with my idea of a partnership.

I agree, I would not be grateful if he demanded it. That is something you feel voluntarily. And in the context that was meant here, not at all. That seems to have been mixed up.

And regarding separate accounts = bad marriage, I’d rather not say anything at all.

But I think these are principles that are not to be settled here anyway, they don’t have to be, it is a construction forum and not a kitchen psychology parlor.

stick to it = this your and my account management disqualifies any marriage. Might have advantages for the self-employed but not for employees. Didn't pay attention at the wedding? Or what do you do when your partner is in need?? Oh no, you have your own money anyway

As I said, I don't find the model objectionable for couples with dual employment and see no problems with it.
Regarding the emergency: Of course, you help each other out. There are also mutual account authorizations for the worst case.
Only: As long as own money under own control is available there is no emergency. And if that is not the case, the model is anyway obsolete.

You always implicitly assume that this necessarily leads to a financially stronger partner withholding something from the other and that the relationship must break because of it. The fact that one could not interpret something at all as "withholding something" when two people with their own income (and self-confidence) are together, each still having "their own," already exceeds your imagination. But that says more about you than about alternative lifestyles, sorry to say so.