How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

Because we have the topic disagreements with the partner here and you wrote it here: Love or not – he wouldn’t have been my partner for long. There is no balance at all between you. Either you find it okay, don’t even notice it, or you have already become very cynical. In every one of your sentences, there is something negative to read about him. That’s not nice. Well, everyone is the architect of their own fortune.

If she already does everything alone. Then he certainly won’t have any problems afterwards if she stays living in the house. But hey, there are every kind of relationships. I know marriages where the wives are kept like servants and made compliant with holidays and jewelry. If she is happy with the way things are, there is nothing against such a living arrangement.

If she is happy with the way things are, there is nothing against such a cohabitation.

That's what I'm saying. Everyone should do as they want. Personally, I would prefer the breakup argument before building the house.

Women tend to have a constant mental movie and go into overthinking. There is planning, flipping through pages, considering, etc. When Ms. Nordlys buys a dress, it’s a real task, a project. I recently bought a suit at C and A in 15 minutes. In the store, found the clerk of the department, suit, not much plastic, lots of virgin wool, not too tight, anthracite. Do you have something like that? He did. Done and dusted. That’s often how men handle things with the house too. Instead of three thousand pages of Schöner Wohnen or something, a conversation with the craftsman, how to do it, what do you use, sure, that’s how we’ll do it here too... I still remember how I chose the flooring and tiles with my wife, I would have much rather gone to a store with only three or four options, she wanted to see thousands... at some point I get overwhelmed and say to her, alright, I’ll sit down now, you pick two or three, and then I’ll join you. But sometimes I have moments where I go into a store, see something, and bam, that’s it. That’s hard for her because I get stubborn then, that or nothing. So far everything has worked out in the end. K.

With us, the tasks are clearly divided. I do everything, from planning to the hard physical work. [...]

That sounds pretty frustrating. On the other hand, I know some couples where it's similar - but "gender-reversed". The man is allowed to work, do, and take action. The woman just nags that she doesn’t like it and makes demands, but very quickly gets a migraine when it comes to shoveling some construction debris. I couldn't do that. I would despair. I want my partner to pull together on the same rope.

Your signature says it! <3

Oh, and if someone doesn't pay, they're not allowed to have a say?

The party not paying may have as much say as they want. They can also make proposals, express wishes, etc.

The decision is then made by the payer(s).

That would be really something...