How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

I think human coexistence is a bit more complex than is generalized here in amateur psychological remote diagnosis. The separation advice is simply delicious. I have rarely experienced such hubris in a forum.

Man, am I glad that we have two, soon to be three, kids. That way, you don’t think about money and/or accounts so much anymore. In the end, more important things count in my partnership. What matters more is the mostly shared approach to parenting, common interests, a circle of friends appreciated by both, family cohesion, shared leisure time, etc.! Money/accounts are rather secondary. And truly, we are not big earners, more on the frugal side in many things. But without going again into "which account setup is best for an intimate relationship," here’s a small advantage of separate accounts. I think separate accounts bring some freedom, not having to “lay everything open.” Even though I’m the family’s classic big earner, my wife probably doesn’t suffer too much from the separate accounts. PS: She also drives the far more prestigious car.

Man, am I glad that we have two, soon to be three, children. That way, you don't think so much about money and/or accounts anymore.

Congratulations on the new addition to your family!

If you lack money to live on, it is hardly possible to avoid "thinking about it." That is a stressful situation.
Those who have enough money to live on and think a lot about money either enjoy it or make things unnecessarily difficult for themselves.

Congratulations on number 3. Well, you should sometimes think about the cars. Dad drives the A6 Pampers bomber to work and Mom crams the kids into her ancient Corsa. @ separate accounts or not There is the time of partnership and there is a community at eye level There is possibly the separation and there are rules for that too, like a prenuptial agreement.

With a former acquaintance, it was like this: He earned very well, she, on the contrary, did not. They wanted to take a big USA trip. She did not have enough money. He lent it to her - with a contract. Meanwhile, about 10 years after the vacation and 9 years after the end of the relationship, she is apparently still paying off the vacation.

Then she doesn't deserve it any differently either.