How did you resolve disagreements with your partner?

You always implicitly assume that something like this necessarily leads to a financially stronger party withholding something from the partner and the relationship having to break down because of it. ... But that says more about you than about alternative life models, sorry to say so.

Either about her or about her partner (or both). Correct.
But some people here in the forum do not recognize that. Or do not want to recognize it. That's okay too.

Everyone has different problems... Everyone should be respected.

With that in mind
Have a nice evening to everyone here

Well, you just don't know me – I definitely don't make myself small.
I think gratitude has nothing to do with making oneself small, and I don't feel less worthy because I appreciate what I have in him AND, I gladly repeat, am also thankful for it.

I agree with that, I wouldn't be grateful if he demanded it. That's something you feel voluntarily. And in the context that was meant here, not at all.
That was probably mixed up.

And about separate accounts = bad marriage, I'd rather not say anything at all.

But I think these are principles that don't need to be resolved here anyway, they don't have to be, this is a construction forum and not a kitchen psychologist's parlor.

Well then if you are grateful to your partner. So we have joint accounts, I have a great strong woman and mother of my children. She is grateful to me for nothing. That has to do with being submissive. If I need that, I'll buy a dog.

I actually didn’t want to say anything more here, but now I do:

What on earth does the choice of account have to do with the partnership? I don’t get it. What’s the difference between a joint account and two or more accounts with mutual power of attorney? Can someone please explain that to me? Am I too dumb? I don’t get it...

We decided on a joint account because it seemed more practical to us than everyone having their own account and on top of that a shared household account. We were annoyed every time we went out to eat, having to figure out who was paying today.
We find it practical this way and have had this joint account since the end of last year. Before that, we had separate accounts for almost 10 years – but nothing about our partnership changed due to the change in our account situation. But maybe we are the exception, who knows...
We didn’t even have mutual power of attorney (we just forgot – we would probably have done it in the course of the joint home financing).

My brother and his wife have been married for over 12 years, three kids, almost 20 years as a couple. They still have separate accounts today because they like it that way (why, I don’t know, we’ve never discussed it – it’s none of my business either). But I can’t say they have a worse partnership because of their account situation.

Chacun à son goût!

Who has the say when it comes to vacation? The high earner with the fat account who wants to book the Maldives. And the low earner?? Are they allowed to save up for it?? Hm

Well then if you are grateful to your partner. So we have joint accounts, I have a great strong woman and mother of my children. She is not grateful to me for anything. It has to do with being submissive. If I need that, I'll buy a dog.

You don't understand it. But that's okay, everyone has their own worldview. So I'm out of the topic then.

Vacation is not a topic here because it is not important. No one would think of flying to the Maldives. Much more important in a partnership is the commonality that both consider air travel to be crazy. As I said, if the commonalities roughly match, the account model does not matter. If there are differences exactly in personal spending behavior, separate is advantageous.

P.S.: If really someone wanted to go to the Maldives here, that would be possible. Just not without me. But there is that much freedom.