Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

I had the same suspicion when I read your reports, Sandrasix - that he is so gruff because he fears having to tear something down, losing his fence, etc.

We also have examples on one side. They never expected that a house would be built in this gap, so they placed their house as close to the boundary as possible (exactly 3m). At some point, this neighbor said, "You didn’t have to build so close to us." I replied, "Yes, we did, our building window didn’t leave many options, we’ve already been granted a boundary overlap (notably: on the other side, so away from these neighbors) – but you still have a good 13 meters on the other side." She said, "Yeah, we never expected anyone to build there again." Exactly, they accepted this risk and now that it has happened, of course, it’s not their fault but ours. Sure! And they feel mistreated. If I now dig out of the attic that they could have partly bought the lot on which our house now stands but declined it (and then my brother bought it), I realize that they are probably kicking themselves several times a day because of it.
On top of that, they have an unapproved window in the boundary structure and this boundary structure on the side towards us is also more than the permitted 9 meters. Personally, I would keep a low profile there too. But no, there is yelling and fussing.

Next week we’re starting with a privacy fence towards their side (they want it too, it’s agreed upon!), I hope this will significantly ease the situation and that’s what I would advise you too: make sure you get a good privacy screen over there. Either relatively tall bushes or a fence. I think then the grumbler will have more privacy again and you’ll have the advantage that he can’t yell directly into your garden.

And I can sympathize with you, trouble with the neighbor is a shitty feeling!

And it’s similar. We are also building in a gap in the buildings, but it is 2500m2. The neighbors take everything for themselves. Knowingly overbuilding OUR property with part of their parking space, driving over our property with their construction vehicles, bicycles, using our property as storage for their construction measures and so on and so forth. We don’t care at all, let them do it, we have enough space around the house, we haven’t even come close to their boundary. But at the same time, every single, and I mean every, move on our property is watched like a hawk. Recently, our gardener sprayed the weeds with an organic agent, and from 40m away OVER OUR property was written what he was doing there.

Presumably our mistake is that we should have shown our neighbors “their” boundaries much earlier. The mistake of our neighbors is that to avoid getting neighbors and their construction site, they should have bought our property. Actually quite simple!

Really unbelievable, hate that kind of thing, you give a hand and they take the whole arm from you.....people need to feel it here!

Honestly, you pay for everything, for every little thing, why can’t the building authority step in here, it is a neutral third party, they can start inspection drives and check if people are complying with the regulations and if not, a fine is imposed (don’t come to me with “they have enough to do,” it’s additional revenue )......and if the neighbor asks: oh, was that the building authority, they are doing their inspection rounds.

1) Warning
2) Fine

Then you are left alone and told "you have to settle this civilly."

- Conversation?
- Fine?
- Serbian mafia?

Any person can be broken with one of these methods.

Fingers crossed for you!

And it’s similar. We are also building in a gap in the buildings, but this one is 2500m2. The neighbors take everything they want. They knowingly build over OUR property with part of their parking space, drive over our property with their construction vehicles and bicycles, use our property as storage for their construction measures, and so on and so forth. We don’t care at all, let them do it, we have enough space around the house, we haven’t even come close to their boundary. But at the same time, every single, and I say every single, move on our property is watched with eagle eyes. Recently, our gardener sprayed the weeds with an organic agent, and 40m over OUR property was written about what he was doing.

Oh dear, that’s unfortunate. But unfortunately, far too much has been allowed already. Your boundary is your boundary, no matter whether you have 250 or 2500 m². Storing and driving over, sure, no problem, just ask BEFOREHAND. However, building over (intentionally?) is absolutely not allowed in any version of the story without compensation. If you want people to respect boundaries, you have to mark them. Unfortunately, people (or rather neighbors) are sometimes like that.
But then you should be armed with the correct facts.

Just go knock on the neighbor’s door and say you would actually like to have their parking space exactly where they have built over. It would be very kind of them to have already given you part of it, but what is the idea behind it?

The conversation did not go so well. My construction manager told me that he simply does not want to understand it. He did not engage with any arguments. "Very stubborn guy".

What exactly is his demand, which alternative to your approach would he like to see implemented? That information is missing here (and maybe for you as well?).

So when I read all of this, I can understand more and more.

It would have been great to have some of you as neighbors!!!!!!!!!!!

But apparently, I am not alone with my problem.

Honestly, you pay for everything, for every little thing, why can't the building authority step in here, it is a neutral third party, they can start inspection drives and check if people comply with the regulations and if not, a fine will be imposed

, that is stupid. But unfortunately also let get way too far. Your boundary is your boundary, no matter whether you have 250 or 2500 m². Storing and driving over it, sure, no problem, just ask BEFORE. Building over (intentionally?), however, does not work in any version of the story without compensation.

Please don’t misunderstand, I don’t care at all what the neighbors do. As long as they don’t point fingers at us. Live and let live.

The neighbor came right at the beginning, after our surveyor had been there and clearly marked the boundaries with markers, approached me and said she also couldn’t explain what her gardener had been thinking. Ah yes! My answer was then, if she wants, she can gladly buy that part of the property from us. She didn’t want that.

You can call me naive now, I don’t care what they do, and I have never even glanced at what they’re up to on their property, I just don’t care. But then they should leave us alone as well.

By the way, the marking point of our surveyor is no longer there, but a proper boundary stone has appeared. Next to the paved area of the gardener. Whether it has always been there, no idea, there was a several centimeters thick layer of chippings. Whether it has been worn down over the years, no idea