Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

I wanted to get married this year and we decided to do it without children (at least the celebration).
The reactions were partly very different. But what I found worst was that some of the guests immediately started swinging the "child-hater club"!

You just have to explain the corresponding reasons for this decision to these people. But some have such a lack of understanding that even the most logical reasons don’t help

Here I agree with you! It may be unfortunate for some families, but as a family you should accept such things, it would be worse if you addressed only one family directly and said: everyone else yes, but your children please not...

I do not see the situation as aversion towards children!

I wanted to get married this year and we decided to do it without children (at least the celebration).

What now? No kids until the celebration or no one is allowed to bring children? Honestly, I don't understand the point at all. Why shouldn't the kids celebrate with us? They can really jump around loudly, dance and do somersaults – everyone is noisy anyway and everyone keeps an eye on things.

I have already been to so many weddings with children by now... Screaming in the church, running around during the meal, the wedding dance, the speeches, etc. In my opinion, none of this belongs at an adult celebration that costs a lot of money. The worst thing I have ever experienced was the screaming of an infant who started crying loudly during the ceremony (the most emotional and touching part of the ceremony), so no one could understand a word! On top of that, I want to enjoy and celebrate the day with my friends and relatives. If they are constantly busy watching their children, neither I nor the parents themselves enjoy it. Aside from the fact that the parents themselves can also celebrate more relaxed if they don't have to take care of the children. As a bridal couple, the day already passes quite quickly. You want to spend as much time as possible with the "adults." Of course, we make exceptions for parents who have no way to organize a babysitter. However, I assume that with a lead time of one year, everyone can manage that.

Furthermore, I want to enjoy the day and celebrate with friends and relatives.

Hello

an understandable wish.
Alessandro is hosting the celebration, Alessandro sets the rules.
It is his day. If he does not want noise there, that is completely okay. Those who can’t handle that should not attend.

Steven

I agree. Whoever hosts sets the rules. However, I would not attend the wedding. Because my children belong to me. I am relaxed about it though and don’t hold any grudges. It is what it is.

The worst thing I have ever experienced was the screaming of an infant who started crying loudly during the wedding ceremony (so during the most emotional and touching part of the ceremony) to the point where no one could understand a word!

But then that is more the parents' responsibility. When our children were very small, we always sat as far back as possible at such events so we could quickly step outside if necessary.

Moreover, not everyone has childcare including overnight care readily available. No matter how far in advance it was planned.
So it can of course happen that guests with children either only stay briefly at the celebration or do not come at all because the child needs to be cared for. Of course, this can offend some people.