Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

sad enough that you end lifelong friendships when someone asks you to exceptionally leave the children at home for the celebration.

I believe that if such a factually justified and presented request is immediately taken as an affront and the friendship is therefore (silently) ended, then it wasn't going to last much longer anyway. And then it's better not to have to feed these future strangers at your wedding. Weddings are usually announced ages in advance. Whoever can't manage, with so much lead time, to arrange proper care for their offspring either lacks organizational talent, has only half-heartedly taken care of it, or generally always puts their own interests first. We like children, but deafening children's screaming from all directions would have spoiled our big day, which we planned extensively and intensively, to some extent. Newly minted parents among the guests simply have to understand that without feeling deadly offended right away. Fortunately, most can be reasoned with.

The last two weddings were wonderful. The children were warmly welcomed and involved. There was a play area, there was dancing where the children could also dance, and there were great wonderful wedding games where especially the children had the laughs on their side.

If the children are an integral part of the family, they sense that just as much as if the main people of the celebration have an unresolved disruptive child trauma. The fear that involving children in a celebration requires hiring a Lilalaunebär from a student rental who has to clown around next to the pastor and that only Rolf Zuckowski can sit at the church organ is, in my opinion, unrealistic. For those who unite the parents of crying children of all countries in their circle of friends, in my opinion, it is worth searching for a cause.

It is a day for my wife and me. Anyone who does NOT accept THAT is, in my opinion, selfish!

That is nonsense, and from what I have read so far, only you are selfish. If it were just for you, you could have a candlelight dinner for two. :P
We organized our wedding especially for our guests. I wanted to prevent boredom and filled the whole day with lots of entertainment. From a bird of prey demonstration at noon to a fire show in the evening – it was a great day for everyone – including the kids.

yes, to each their own. Other opinions when it comes to one's own children are hardly accepted anymore by "modern" parents. These are the soccer dads who call the coach and ask why little Kai is not in the starting lineup on the weekend, just because he couldn't attend practice this week due to schoolwork and grandma's name day

: Wasn't your site manager supposed to talk to the neighbor today? Are there any updates - then we can also get back to the actual "problem" a bit

These are the soccer dads who call the coach and ask why little Kai is not in the starting lineup on the weekend, just because he couldn't attend training this week due to schoolwork and grandma's name day

If little Kai played the wedding crasher, he would be out of place in any team sport.