Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

Yaso, I completely agree with you and I find the development unsettling.

I don't blame the children either, it's always the parents (like with the dog: it's the other end of the leash...). And unfortunately, there is quite a significant number of parents who believe their children should always and forever be considered and treated as the center of attention. My best friend got married, quite a while ago. She booked a room in the inn where the celebration took place so that tired children could be put to sleep there or nursing mothers could withdraw there (no one has anything against nursing mothers, but those I know prefer it a bit quieter than in a hall where the music is calling for a conga line), she is a pharmacist and collected all kinds of promotional gifts for children for a whole year, at the wedding there was a special children's table with lots of games, including these promotional gifts that the children were allowed to take with them, a large portion of fries with sausages to eat and so on. And what happened: a guest actually complained that there was no program offered for the children at all. It would be boring for the dear little ones. You just can’t believe it... And no, she couldn’t just have been not invited. Unfortunately, you don’t only have friends at a wedding, but also dear relatives.

11ant speaks of Bambini – at the Italian weddings I have been to there were always many of them. But honestly, never a special children’s program and it still worked without silly mothers complaining that there was no children’s program offered (see above). Then I find that okay and nice. But unfortunately, we currently live in a society where that somehow no longer quite works and therefore I understand Alessandro’s wish to celebrate the wedding without children.

Maybe you or your wife are also dissatisfied with the overall situation.

Oh God, I’m sorry, but you’re unfortunately so embarrassing – how many times have I had to read this from you here when someone doesn’t share your opinion. Just stop it – not everyone who sees things differently than you is unhappy with their life. And you haven’t swallowed wisdom with a spoon either – even if you obviously think so.

but guys really now? Excluding children?

I think with the keyword "wedding planner" you've already hit the nail on the head: the "culture" of the wedding following a one hundred percent perfect script has probably led to some people having panic attacks at the thought that an untrained little crumb of coincidence could sneak into such a process :-(

And unfortunately, there is a not insignificant number of parents who think their children should always and constantly be considered and treated as the center of attention.

My circle of friends is completely "clean," there are no principal-scare parents

The weddings we attended where a wedding planner was involved were by far the most boring

You can´t hurry Love, that applies to fun at a party as well.

I think it's time again for an off-topic section in this forum

I agree completely. An OT section is an essential part of OT-free question threads. One-sided medals don’t work in the long run.

I think it's about time for an Off Topic section in this forum again

The weddings we attended where a wedding planner was involved were by far the most boring

I have never been to a wedding with a wedding planner - do I need to worry???

At the most boring wedding I have ever experienced, I had just recovered from a severe tonsillitis and could still barely swallow, and if I could, only lukewarm drinks or food. Meaning: I couldn’t even drown this disaster in alcohol – that was really bitter!

The weddings we attended where a wedding planner was involved were by far the most boring

That is also my experience. A succession of clichés that she in particular always wanted at her wedding. Everything has to be included, from the carriage to the white dove, the castle (garden), and everyone is just perfect. It’s like combining a Tuscan villa with smoky eyes.

So I have now received feedback.

The conversation did not go so well.
My site manager told me that he simply does not want to understand.
He did not engage with arguments.
“Very stubborn guy.”
When our site manager tried to explain to him that we are not making any demands, he just said that he also does not make any demands regarding his garden fence.
The garden fence is like the rest of his house, 3 cm on our property.

Our site manager gave him a card in case he has any further questions.
That should be it.

According to his experience, there will be problems with him with every trade.

He is not aware of his mistakes (encroachment).

Tip from the site manager:
Ignore him for now, unless he becomes abusive.
He still has a few options if necessary.
But he cannot guarantee that he will continue to remain friendly to him.

Let’s see what else comes.