With your own child, of course, the situation looks different. But on such a day, I also wouldn’t want the mother or mother-in-law to be tied to the child!We already had our one-year-old son at our wedding. The advantage was that he was weaned. We rented a motorhome for the grandparents, the little one slept in it and it was the baby monitor at my mother-in-law’s. Everything works if you want it to.
If everyone brought their children to our celebration, that would be a total of 25 children!
However, I would not go to the wedding. Because my children belong to me.
That would be the point at which our friendship would end if we were friends. But I would accept it, so certainly wouldn’t argue with you, you would just have to do without my presence at the wedding and in the future.I have already been to so many weddings with children... Screaming in the church, running around during the meal, the wedding dance, the speeches, etc. In my opinion, none of this has any place at an adult celebration that costs a lot of money. The worst thing I have ever experienced was the screaming of an infant, who really let loose during the ceremony (so during the most emotional and touching part of the ceremony), so that no one could understand a word! Moreover, I want to enjoy and celebrate the day with friends and relatives. If they are constantly busy looking after their children, it’s no fun for me or for the parents themselves. Not to mention that the parents themselves can celebrate more relaxed if they don’t have to take care of the children. As a bridal couple, the day already passes pretty quickly. You want to spend as much time as possible with the “adults.” Of course, we make exceptions for parents who have no possibility to organize a babysitter. However, I assume that with a lead time of one year, everyone can manage that.
I wanted to get married this year and we decided to do it without children (at least the celebration). The reactions were sometimes very different. What I found worst, however, was that some of the guests immediately started swinging the "child-hater club" around!
You just have to explain the corresponding reasons for this decision to these people. But some have such a lack of understanding that even the most logical reasons don't help
Sounds weird, too, you can understand if the neighbor sells his house because of the children, but you can’t understand if a friend wants to invite you without children?!
A wedding doesn’t happen that often, so I find it absolutely reasonable if parents are alone sometimes.
Some people don’t always have the possibility to arrange childcare, I can understand that, but I don’t at least read that from your sentence.
I compare the whole thing to a children’s birthday party, do you then also say: "I have to go, not without my parents"?
This is a "judgment" from me!
, you did everything right, as long as it applied to everyone.
Well, this thread got torn apart badly