Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

But it also depends on what kind of "relationship" you have with the hosts. A wedding is a family celebration and children belong to that. Especially since, speaking conservatively, marriage is the foundation of a family. Excluding children sounds simply absurd.
But it also depends on the constellation. If a former study friend of my wife (primarily her) invites us, she just goes there and I stay home with the kids.
If my brother gets married and my children are not allowed to come, we probably wouldn’t look each other in the eye for a long time.

But I can understand it when, for example, such experiences already exist:

Screaming in the church, running around during the meal, the wedding dance, the speeches, etc.

Then the parents really screwed up. I have even been to a wedding with a baby myself and didn’t even go into the church. My wife was inside (her sister was getting married).

Once the formal part is over, the kids simply have a lot of fun and keep each other occupied. As an adult, there’s not much to do anymore. As soon as the music is on, it’s hardly possible to complain about the noise anymore.
By 9 p.m. everyone is totally wiped out. Those with very small kids leave before the cake.

Annoying are the parents who desperately want both or don’t get that you can’t really hang around a wedding with a baby until 3 a.m. completely drunk.

It can of course happen that guests with children either only stay briefly at the celebration or don’t even come because the child needs to be taken care of. That naturally offends some people.

I don’t think so, as I said. You can take the circumstances of parents with children into account (e.g., we had a separate sleeping room for the kids) or not (see Alessandro).
As a parent, I know that I have a dependency that others don’t and sometimes have to scale back. Such situations make it clear, and that also leads to anger sometimes – but all that passes over time and there will be plenty of other occasions.

If everyone at our wedding had been as easy-going as the children.
To each their own. You often hear of weddings without children. You just have to be aware that some won't come at all or will disappear around dinner time.
The reasons are incomprehensible to me.

Of course, it is also the parents' responsibility when the children misbehave at such events. But that does not help us as the bridal couple if the mood in the church or at the celebration is terrible. I know that this initially sounds harsh to the parents. However, all our friends or relatives always sometimes drop off their kids with the grandparents or wherever to have a drink and celebrate. At a wedding, every other person reacts with incomprehension.

That's how I would feel too! We also had children at our wedding and have been to other weddings with children, it was never a problem. In the end, of course, it is the decision of the bride and groom, but for me, this would also lead to me declining the invitation to the wedding couple, and that could even be my best friend or even my brother.

It certainly also depends on how you envision the wedding. There are differences between a highly formal event with a gala dinner and a wild party. If I plan to serve 10 courses with a string quartet, I would probably exclude (small) children as well. Or the event ends for parents with children at 7 p.m. before the big table is set up.

But I don't want anyone to go home early because of the kids! That's exactly what it's about. Otherwise, everything always revolves around the kids and I have no problem with that at all and even enjoy playing the clown and so on with them at kids' birthday parties. It can't be too much to ask to involve the grandparents on this day as well.

Not everyone has to understand, but if someone doesn't come because they can't go without their kids for even one day, even though they gladly leave them to various drinking sprees otherwise, THAT is something I don't understand.

How many times have I heard: We have to go home, the little one is tired. If all guests with kids do that, we'll be standing alone on the dance floor at midnight.