Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

Tumaa, no one here has anything against children. You are getting completely worked up because you are putting a lot of wrong things into the comments.

Hehe, I am chilled, but I stick to my point.

You blanket-assign attributes to one of your black-and-white subsets, which you have developed for yourself based on hearsay about the behavior of others, and try to soften this with "often," while at the same time assuming a general validity.

These are experiences I made myself.

Why do you actually feel addressed if you have nothing against children?!

The little children were unfairly labeled as loud, in general people are unfriendly and don’t say hello, so disrespectful! She is even a shrew who torments her husband, and the cousin was not allowed to buy their house either. Such insolence!

tumaa, look at it this way, you’re happy that they are gone, they are happy to be away from there.

Hehe, I'm chill, but I stand by it.

Why do you actually feel addressed if you have nothing against children?!

Because you repeatedly claim that childless people are child haters.

You are completely twisting this discussion.
You ignore the need for peace, which was the topic here, and you stamp your one personal experience here.
It's a bit simplistic to see everything only from one's own perspective.

The little children were wrongly labeled as loud, in general the people are unfriendly and don’t greet, so disrespectful! She is even a shrew who tortures her husband, and the cousin was also not allowed to buy their house. Such impertinence!

Wow, you are really funny ..... no wonder if children mirror your behavior . I did say, respect knows no language or age . At least I was raised to show respect especially to older people and is it too much to expect such children to get something back?!

Yes, there are machos and shrews, both exist .

Are dog owners now antisocial because they don’t teach their darlings, or should one teach the doggies to behave a bit??

It’s crystal clear: YES.
It’s exactly the same as with: CHILDREN.

1a) Failing to teach dogs basic rules of behavior towards other people: Not social.

2a) Failing to teach children basic rules of behavior towards other people: Not social.

1b) Barking at all joggers on the street and possibly running at them off-leash violates the basic rules from 1a). Therefore: Antisocial

2b) Often and regularly making loud, screaming noises in your own garden when direct neighbors are around violates the basic rules from 1b). Therefore: Antisocial.

All of this is a product of upbringing, both good and bad. "He just wants to play" is the same as "Children are just like that": The shrugging excuse that you cannot/will not do the exhausting, annoying, often frustrating upbringing work that restricts yourself.
Instead of starting with themselves, others are blamed. Because they (supposedly) don’t like children. Your own children are always great, of course. How could they annoy anyone? That’s impossible, how disrespectful...

Why is it not allowed to have a different opinion here, why is it seen as pathetic

Like many, you confuse freedom of opinion with freedom from contradiction. Nobody forbids you anything. But many judge what you write. This in turn is freedom of opinion – it’s not one-way traffic!

Who am I personally attacking with that?!

Anyone who has nothing against children does not have to feel addressed!

If you form a group (childless people) and attribute a "frequent" behavior to them (your opinion about it), isn’t that personal?
How should the part of the group that sees children neutrally feel addressed?
You categorize far too much in black and white, step on some toes because of that, and then wonder about resistance?

Like so many, you confuse freedom of expression with freedom from contradiction. No one forbids you anything. But many judge what you write. That is then freedom of expression again – it’s not a one-way street!

ok, I judge too!

If you form a group (childless people) and attribute a "common" behavior to them (your opinion on that), isn’t that personal?

Yep, it is personal, but my message is only meant for those who can’t stand children. If no one here is among them, then all is well!