Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

I also think it's okay to keep the children outside during the wedding ceremony itself. But at the celebration, they really didn't stand out for us. Since they often know each other and immediately plan mischief together, they were like gone. I only saw them again during the balloon activity and after that, they were gone again... (War ein Hotel im Wald mit großer Wiese - weit ab der Zivilisation).

It can’t be too much to ask to get the grandparents involved on that day as well.

Not everyone has that option, for example we don’t. Overnight childcare with small children is rather not feasible either.
You then have to live with the consequence that people might cancel entirely or only one person from a couple comes.

Not everyone has to understand it, but if someone doesn’t come because they can’t go without their children even for one day, even though they gladly hand them over for various drinking parties, that doesn’t make sense to ME.

That is true, however.

How often have I heard: We have to go home, the little one is tired.

I don’t want to interfere endlessly, but when we got married, we didn’t have children yet ourselves but knew that many guests had (small) children and also some had to travel. We asked beforehand how we could accommodate them so that they would (hopefully) be able to participate in the celebration for a long time. That’s how the separate sleeping room came about. About 10 children slept there.
Of course, that doesn’t work with everyone and sometimes things don’t go as planned (stomach ache, doesn’t want to sleep, too loud, etc.), but that’s how it is when you have children. Magic tricks don’t work either.

We already had our one-year-old son at our wedding. The advantage was that he was weaned. We rented a motorhome for the grandparents, where the little one slept, and the baby monitor was with my mother-in-law. Everything is possible if you want it. But again: if someone doesn't want it, then that's absolutely okay with me. I just won't come. I'm not that important. Just handing over the children for the celebration, I can't accept that. But everyone is allowed to decide that for themselves.

Are the owners now antisocial because they don’t teach their darlings, or should one teach the doggies to behave a bit??

Well, I certainly hope they are not behaving aggressively right now
In my experience, there are no stupid dogs; it's always between the stupid one and the dog that there is a leash. I can understand joggers wanting to keep their pace – as a hiker, I can stop for a moment. Usually, it can be sorted out with eye contact with the owners whether I’m allowed to let the dog sniff – often they actually prefer if you peacefully ignore the dog. A well-behaved dog only sniffs when allowed. You don’t have to absolutely place your jogging route in a slobby area – there are definitely districts frequented preferably by cultivated people.

By the way, for me a wedding without children would be unimaginable.

But I don’t want anyone to leave early because of the kids!
That’s exactly the point. Otherwise, everything always revolves around the kids, and I personally have no problem with that and also happily play the clown with them at children’s birthday parties.
So it shouldn’t be too much to ask to involve the grandparents on that day once in a while.

Not everyone has to understand it, but if someone doesn’t come because they can’t give up their kids even for one day, although they gladly hand them over for various drinking sprees, THAT is something I don’t understand.

How often have I heard: We have to go home, the little one is tired.
If all guests with kids acted like that, we’d be standing alone on the dance floor at midnight.

Don’t let yourself be discouraged...
We got married in September, we don’t have kids ourselves and we didn’t exclude kids either... However, we got married 1.5 hours away, so everyone had to find accommodation...
A good buddy of mine managed to leave the party with his wife and 2 kids even before it started because the kids couldn’t be settled “today” for some reason.
Even after they were in bed, he didn’t manage to come back to the party even though he had a hotel next door... so frustrating.

Many others came straight without kids because they were happy to have some time for themselves and to party again...

I also had a few really relaxed ones who put their kids into the loungers they had put in there... kids were sleeping, parents with a glass of wine next to them...

If you want a real party, you sadly can't have the kids, that’s just how it is...

I also think that in this regard it’s okay to be a little selfish, especially when you already see the kiddies regularly and have fun with them. If everyone brought their children to our party, that would be a total of 25 kids! Sorry, but a wedding is not a children’s event and they also have to learn that adults have the right to celebrate without children sometimes.