Duplex - Trouble with the Neighbor

And that would be? As I said, of course you can do it that way, but I would have zero understanding for it. You have your opinion, I have mine, so whatever. By the way, with such things we try to keep our children at home or take them to the parents-in-law in the evening. Because we also want to celebrate in peace. For me, it’s more a matter of principle that my children are so unwelcome that they are categorically uninvited. I would question the friendship over that. But you’re right, we probably wouldn’t be friends in the first place because of that anyway.

We also didn’t write on the invitation "please refrain from bringing food, drinks, and children" or "no kids, no grannies." Of course we did not mention that on the invitation. Of course we spoke personally with everyone and explained why we want this. Precisely because the friendship is the focus and we want to pop the corks among ourselves once again. 90% said anyway that they wouldn’t have brought the kids, 5% understood and accepted our explanation, and the rest didn’t. The part about friendship referred to the comment by

What is so hard to understand about that? It is not about this or that child, but rather the fact that it involves 25 children of toddler age. As a wedding couple, I would not be keen on that either.

And better than allowing this or that person to come with children, but not the other, is to clearly say: we would like to celebrate without children.

Sad enough that you end lifelong friendships when you are asked to exceptionally leave the children at home for the celebration.

What kind of friendship was that supposed to have been?

A wedding without kids is like a housewarming without bread and salt. Although, in my circle of friends, there are only well-behaved children and no ego terrorists. And the teenagers don’t want to come along anyway. The description by is, in my opinion, only worth considering if the entire graduating class gives birth simultaneously and the kids brought along are consequently all six months old - but when does such a jackpot sixer with a bonus number actually happen in reality?
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we also didn’t write on the invitation “please refrain from bringing food, drinks and children” or “no Kids, no grannies.” Of course, we did not mention that on the invitation.
Of course, we sought a personal conversation with everyone and explained to them why we were doing this. 90% said anyway that they wouldn’t have brought the kids, 5% understood and accepted our explanation, and the rest did not.

The comment about friendship referred to the comment by

Well then you are dishonest to me and cowardly for not writing it on there. How does that look? You get an invitation, you’re happy, you tell the kids, and then you show up and say, but please no kids?

I wouldn’t be into a sterile wedding that goes according to “plan” either.

The last two weddings were wonderful. The children were warmly welcomed and involved. There was a play corner, there was dancing where the children could also dance, and there were great wonderful wedding games where above all the children had the laughs on their side.

But that is the problem with German society. The main thing is shiny, sterile, no kids.

There were surely great wedding photos with nothing but adults. I would have asked whether they were all gays or if it was a swinger party ^^

Sorry, that’s my sick humor.

And no, we both certainly wouldn’t be friends and neither would our wives.

But 25 toddlers at my wedding? I definitely wouldn’t have wanted that either!

Hehe, at mine there were easily 150... lots of friends with children .... but it didn’t bother me personally at all.

, it’s already done, but it would have been better if you had first made the families aware and then invited them afterwards..........

As long as your circle of friends hasn’t been broken because of it, then it’s okay.

Well then you are dishonest and cowardly for not writing it down. What does that look like? You receive an invitation, you’re happy, tell the kids, and then you show up and say please, but without children?

I wouldn’t want a sterile wedding that goes according to “plan” either.

The last two weddings were wonderful. The children were warmly welcomed and involved. There was a play area, there was dancing where the children could also dance, and there were great wonderful wedding games where the children especially had the audience laughing.

But that’s the problem with German society. The main thing is shiny gloss, sterile, no children.

There were definitely great wedding photos with only adults. Would I have asked if they were all gay or if it was a swinger party ^^

Sorry, that’s my sick humor.

And no, we definitely wouldn’t be friends and neither would our wives.

That’s EXACTLY how we did it too! I don’t know why you always have to read something into it, angrily giving your two cents even though you have no clue???!
I don’t want a kids’ dance corner, a bouncy castle, or a table magician. It’s not a children’s birthday party! It’s a day for my wife and me. Whoever DOESN’T accept that is, in my opinion, selfish! The children can gladly be the center of attention the remaining 364 days.
I’m also not talking about teenage children, but children who depend on their parents and constantly have to be occupied by them!