When the dream of the house bursts

But there are also non-medical reasons that are still private [emoji6]

Lack of height
Accident in the past
Alcohol at the wheel
Points on the Flensburg register
Fear of speeds over the 5 km/h limit
etc.

We could almost extend the list indefinitely

#123 2nd sentence [emoji4]
What kind of troll answers are these sometimes?! I can fool myself! [emoji35]
Seriously, there are certainly enough reasons not to leave the house. Still, almost everyone does so every morning.
If you don’t help yourself, then no one can help you. However: if you claim that you can just stop life because children are planned, you shouldn't be surprised if there is no money in the house, private debts make many things impossible, and you will remain tenants forever.
You might as well unsubscribe here immediately.

Good luck!

#123 2nd sentence What kind of troll answers are those sometimes?! I can fool myself!

Don't be so sensitive. It's just fun.

Don't be so sensitive. It's just a joke.

Yes, all just fun! The question is only whether the OP feels like laughing.

I have thought something similar to ypg for a long time, just a bit more drastic.

If you are not willing to do anything, you should not be surprised that your wish does not come true.

Personally, I also cannot understand how someone could accumulate such high debts. I only understand a loan for 3 reasons: wedding, car, house. (Although I am lucky that only the latter will affect me).

At 34 and minimum wage, I would have been attending some kind of further education/training/community college every weekend for 6-8 years.

and

I don’t know if you have been actively following along, but I would simply ask you to read #1 again. I have neither actively asked for help, which would be wrong in the Stammtisch anyway, nor do I have the intention to build/buy a house in our presence without any changes. This should also be clear from my answers. So sorry that you feel trolled, that was not my intention! I just wanted to make clear that there are also things I do not state here in the forum because they simply are none of your business or they can be things that one cannot or does not want to change.

Consider yourselves invited for a tea and have a nice Tuesday.

I understand that you don't want to share personal details. You don't have to. But we are here discussing your contribution. In this context, one takes in something and reflects on it. What we write in response can remain uncommented by you. Still, we writers hope that the words don't just bounce off and that in this case you might consider whether we could possibly be right. In a discussion, ways forward are also shown. And even if only eyes are opened to the fact that there are other ways or that you or your wife might currently be in a self-"created" dead end, that is already a start. Because the fact that the dream of the house collapses is usually rooted in oneself or one's own life situation.