When the dream of the house bursts

Luckily, otherwise we might have these men on our necks.

Oh no, then I'd rather become a crazy old cat lady [emoji85][emoji23]

Fortunately, there are also men who do not feel threatened by a woman and who share work and household chores with their partner.

For me, it wouldn't be anything to just be a mom and housewife. But everyone is different. I'd rather work 30 hours and treat myself to a cleaning lady with that [emoji16]

As Karsten writes: The degree of independence is not linked to a professional career. It simply exists without a profession as financial dependence - whether the resulting power imbalance is exploited is not certain. However, not allowing it to grow in the first place is a good idea regardless.

yes exactly everyone as they like.

at some point both partners become alienated and get divorced when the children leave the nest.

As if only couples where the woman "was allowed" to work full-time separate. Sorry, but that's nonsense. I know plenty of housewives who became dependent on their husbands and were then left.

That no one fights for a relationship happens among young, old, poor, rich, full-time employees, etc.
So if we get through the next 3 years with building a house, two toddlers, two cats and work, then basically almost nothing can harm us anymore [emoji85][emoji28]

That might be possible, but I am really glad that I don't have to do it. Full-time work + household + child(ren) = zero or negative... who gets left behind? At least the women who would also like to have a hobby that isn't called "child"...

But that leads away from the topic again.

Women are doing something wrong. Well, I also have hobbies and my husband and I make sure that we both occasionally have the opportunity to pursue our hobbies. Sure, it’s not as intense as before, but still doable. However, both have to be willing to create some space for the other sometimes.

One can also consciously decide against having children - then many problems do not arise in the first place. One can also combine full-time work and hobbies.

I'm coming here after all, Karsten

For me, every coexistence has its justification as long as it is distributed equally. I don't care who brings money home, who raises the children, or who works more or less. What matters to me is that there is balance in the partnership, and that neither one is exploited or wears themselves out while the other leans back.
If one is sick, the other must take over and vice versa. It's like your fisherman and his wife. Only not sick, but absent.
The shared life or partnership should fulfill both of them.
Other situations like raising children or caring for parents have to be managed somehow. Often, people accept disadvantages, often one gets stressed by too many tasks, and so on and so forth.
But everyone has the right to do it in the way that suits them best. You just make sacrifices for the family.
But there are limits. That's when the sacrifice affects only one person in a partnership, while the other celebrates life at the expense of their health or there is some exploitation of weaknesses.