When the dream of the house bursts

I also have to honestly say that when you look around, I just see nothing but confusion. The commercial clerk in retail is now called Sales Manager, I don’t want to work there anymore anyway!!! The office tasks, which I have been doing for 12 years now, are then presented online in a way that I often think no one can work there without a degree. I am too passive because of my parents’ influence. My father worked 45 years at the same company and my mother has also been at the same employer for almost 20 years.

But please be aware that such biographies are no longer repeatable. If 40 years with the same employer, then only through constant further training. Doing the same thing for 40 years, like my grandfather and his father did, will no longer exist. After 15 years, it becomes apparent that employee X hasn’t kept up with the times – such a person will then be prioritized for layoffs.

If that scares you, I can only recommend desensitization: leave the comfort zone – sometimes over time you find new comfort zones that are safer. Whether one wants it or not, today’s professional life means lifelong learning (work), and that must be actively pursued by oneself.

I also fully support haydee’s advice that in rural living every partner should have a driver’s license. Your wife has no way to leave her “comfort” zone if she is not mobile, right? Sounds a bit like a cozy prison.

What’s the deal with Frankfurt and “risky”? Sounds like a line from a movie where a “country bumpkin” fears the “jungle” of the big city...

I work at a car insurance company in the front office as a call center agent, and my wife, since she doesn't have a driver's license, currently works at the bakery 2 minutes from our apartment. It’s a comfort zone! But for both of us. I don’t really want to send my wife to Frankfurt, that’s too risky for me, and I know what I’m getting into here every day.

I also have to honestly say, when you look around, all I see is confusion. The merchant in retail is now called a sales manager, I don’t want to work there anymore anyway!!! The office tasks, which I have been doing for 12 years now, are presented online in such a way that I often think no one can work there without a degree. I am too passive because of my parents’ influence. My father worked in the same company for 45 years and my mother has also been with the same employer for almost 20 years now. But the more I read posts here, the more it becomes clear to me that this isn’t the end and I just have to send out an application. Thanks again for that

Call center is of course a low-paid industry, but also your advantage!

You can practically take any office job and earn more.

Nothing risky

Well, I have changed jobs over 10 times for various reasons, mostly because of moving. Comfort zone? Ha!


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Moved 10 times? Respect, either people couldn’t stand you.

There are women who don’t want to pursue a career but primarily see themselves as mothers. For them, working is just a means to an end. You can’t understand that, you have no children but cats.

I have respect for my wife and for women who are primarily there for their children and don’t all want to make a career.

This talk about women having to work full-time, take care of children, make a career can only come from people who have no children or consciously push them away.

Our children are not raised by au pairs from Romania.

I wonder whether the OP should even build a house given their apparent lack of courage. If I don't dare to write an application or go to the city, then I'm even less likely to take on the tough construction industry or carry out such a project.

Moved 10 times? Respect, either people couldn't stand you.

Or?

I have respect for my wife and for the women who are primarily there for the children and do not all want to make a career.

Whether that is then the comfort zone, I suppose every woman has to decide for herself. To each their own pleasure.

I have respect for my wife and for the women who are primarily there for the children and do not all want to pursue a career.

This nonsense about women having to work full-time, watch the children, and pursue a career can only come from people who have no children or consciously push them away.

This "nonsense" is a figment of the feminists' imagination, who have forgotten that even engaged women only have 24 hours in a day.
Real solutions are shared time between partners, job sharing, etc., if both are to be combined. As a mother-to-be or a mother, aiming for the same career speed as a 60-hour workaholic does not speak for life wisdom. Nevertheless, one can combine a career with children. Just at a different pace.