When the dream of the house bursts

Thank you all for your encouragement and for not giving up hope.

Don’t get me wrong, I will not give up on my dream, I just see it as something that simply isn’t possible right now. Changing jobs, yes of course, you’re right, if not now, then when. But when it comes to the job, I’m somehow too scared and it won’t get any further here in the medium term.

I just wanted to show with my story that sometimes things just don’t work out and all the others are then watched a little bit enviously.

But I promise you solemnly.... Giving up is not in my vocabulary.

(I even calculated once if I buy the stones myself and stack stone by stone)

I would say goodbye to the idea that you need a house to be happy! In your situation, somehow managing to get a house with difficulty would kill any standard of living. I am in a completely different financial situation and therefore might find it easy to say, but a house was not really high on our list and we are only happy with it because we hardly had to make any compromises.

I also don't see why you always have to build 180m² right away. Anyone who really dreams of a house with little money builds small, maybe with 130 to 140m². Every square meter counts in a house and smaller is simply cheaper. I agree with my predecessor and say that this should be possible even with an average net salary of 3300 for two people.

Calling 140sqm small perfectly reflects your just previously questioned size mania.

In this case, your total net would be below the minimum wage??

However, minimum wage refers to gross.

Calling 140sqm small reflects your just now questioned megalomania very well

Sorry, that was not my intention. With a young couple, I always assume two children. For me, 130 is kind of the lower limit. But of course, you can also be happy with less.

Job change yes sure you are right, if not now then when. But when it comes to the job, I'm somehow too scared and it won't get any more than that here in the medium term.

I don't know the specific situation and location now. Applying elsewhere has little to do with courage.