I have now worked my way through all 10 pages, mostly very interesting. After we initially wanted to build turnkey (but were left hanging), the 60-page offer from the turnkey builder, including various special requests considered in the equipment, serves us as a reference.
With the electrical installation, due to special requests, we are €9,000 above the offered standard, and in terms of windows it amounts to over €10,000. The sanitary/heating/ventilation package will probably swallow the biggest chunk of additional costs, as the wishes here are furthest from what is calculated as standard.
For the earthworks, one is actually completely powerless; we will see in the next few days whether the calculated budget suffices. Otherwise, we have very clear ideas about our "extra items" and the financial implications. The fact that someone wants to compete with others is quite crazy. We wouldn’t have thought of something like that.
I find this list great, but people for whom the listed things are a dealbreaker cannot/will not "read" properly and draw the necessary conclusions from it, therefore this thread will probably unfortunately not be able to help those who need it most.