In retrospect and applied to your situation, I would probably try to ensure that construction can start in spring. Everything is definitely more relaxed during the summer.
In terms of costs and planning, I would (if possible) include everything right away. So not building the garage five years later or something like that. If you have a good architect, you could ask her where it makes sense to save. For example, are there parapets that can be built with masonry instead of expensive stainless steel? Can the garden already be modeled by the shell builder? Prefabricated garage vs. masonry garage? Etc.
A cellar became more expensive from 75k to 150k for acquaintances despite a lot of personal work... You can also build a lot of nice space (or garage) above ground. We have the cellar replacement as a large open room (hobby, guests, home office, cellar replacement) in the attic. Properly heated and with many Pax cabinets.
Are there things you wouldn’t mind not having, etc.
And indeed, a house with a garden is great with kids.
Good luck