House and floor plan planning - First architect's plan is available

At building authorities, it is not uncommon that the head of the office and his deputy are civil servants, but "below them" employees are also active – they may be professionally competent, but their information is possibly only assessments without legal binding effect (not only due to lack of written form but also due to lack of authority to represent).

Such nonsense!

Such nonsense. That has absolutely nothing to do with civil servant status.

But telephone information is always rubbish anyway.

From our perspective, that was fine. We were very grateful for the tip, and it could well have been approved. Now we are just building differently; in our opinion, the house/outdoor area will still be nice. :)

Yesterday, I took it upon myself to find out who it is in this forum that basically spreads a few thanks here and there everywhere, but rarely writes anything on the topics themselves. In the process, I stumbled upon your thread here. I was so impressed by your way of standing up to it all that I had to read it completely.

Now I just want to express my admiration for you. This thread (but not only this one) clearly shows why I personally have never posted our plans here, not even our kitchen. Many (most, if not all) of those who wrote to you here meant well. But they simply didn’t understand why you are taking such a completely different path than almost everyone else here in the forum would probably take. They couldn’t comprehend that you might feel most comfortable exactly this way with your husband, which I personally found very sad. They meant well towards you, but some didn’t quite understand how what was said might come across to the recipient, sometimes I would even call it hurtful, even if the sender perhaps didn’t intend it that way. I won’t name names now, because I believe those people know themselves that they are being addressed.

I found it truly remarkable how clear and polite you remained every single time despite all the attacks and how you didn’t let much deter you, with absolute calmness. I am sure you will soon have a wonderful house, completely different from many here, but 100% what you both have agreed on and decided with compromise and love. You have a great attitude and are truly strong!

I already said that I consciously haven’t posted my things because we spent months occupied with nothing else but our home, to make it as cozy as possible for us. There are certainly some things that nobody else would understand, but we want them that way and planned them accordingly. I am actually a very assertive person, at least that’s what people say about me. And still, I would know that many things would have affected me deeply and made me falter. I probably would have also stood firm like you, but I would have doubted myself and lost my feeling of comfort, that’s how I know myself and that would have been terrible for me. And even though I have tried since I can remember not to show certain things, I also know that I would have passed on my love next to me, which would have been even worse for me.

I just want to say that you have stood firm for 22 pages against much said, and you will definitely live in your dream house, which is much more important than sometimes just doing everything reasonably. Maybe this example also shows some that one shouldn’t always write what one might think, especially if one notices from the first or second attempt that it simply isn’t wanted. There is no patent recipe for happiness…

All the best to you and your project!

I made it my mission yesterday to find out who in this forum is actually the one who cheerfully distributes a few thanks everywhere, but rarely writes anything about the topics themselves. In the process, I stumbled upon your thread here. I was so impressed by the way you stand up to everything that I had to read it completely.

Thank you, it’s nice that you took the time and put so many kind thoughts into it.

Now I just want to express my admiration for you.

I’m probably two to three times older than you (but not as old as a turtle yet ;-) ) and thus had a lot, no, a great, great deal of time to practice. ;-) Still, I’m happy about your words, even if I find them hard to accept.

This thread (but not only this one) clearly shows why I personally never posted our plans here, not even our kitchen.

I find that a pity, your project interests me and surely many others here as well.

Many (most, if not even all) who wrote to you here meant well.

You and I can certainly take that for granted. :)

But simply didn’t want to understand why you go a completely different way than almost every other person here in the forum would probably take.

Finding understanding is nice and soothing, just like receiving confirmation. In my opinion, however, a lack of understanding also has its charm and can be stimulating or prompt one to reconsider one’s own position and then be all the more certain that it is the right thing for oneself. :)

I’m sure you will soon have a great house, completely different from many here, but 100% what you both have agreed on and decided lovingly and with willingness to compromise.

It will probably be an average house, simple and plain, and precisely because of that I will like it. So far I really find it nice in its simplicity. I have announced here in the forum several times that after completion, anyone is welcome to visit me and crawl into every corner to find out that it didn’t turn out so “bad”.

The only embarrassing thing ;-) is that we have already discovered a big mistake, namely that our floor-to-ceiling window doors on the ground floor are not flush with the floor, as I had assumed. So window sills were installed at all our beautiful windows, which we wanted as passages outside, and we are still pondering whether and how we can turn the window doors into the desired terrace doors. :) That will become its own thread here at the right time. That reminds me, maybe sooner rather than later. ;-)

You have a great attitude and are really strong!

You certainly have that too, in the situations that matter to you. And the other situations we just neglect, suppress, or forget. ;-)

I already said that I consciously did not post my stuff because we spent months doing nothing else but dealing with our home to make it as cozy as possible for us. There are definitely some things in there that no one else can understand, but we want them that way and have planned them accordingly.

A little comfort: What others don’t understand is probably original and therefore fine and the right thing for you especially. :) Also here, it’s a pity that you didn’t post your things, but I can understand it, even if I often decide differently.

And yet I know that personally a lot would have touched me deeply and I would have stumbled. I probably would have stood firm like you as well, but I would have doubted myself and lost my feeling of well-being, that’s how I know myself and that would have been terrible for me. And even though I have been trying since I can remember not to let many things show, I also know that I would have infected my love next to me with it, which would have been even worse for me.

Then you made absolutely the right decision and I’m happy for you. You might be able to dare a very small excerpt just as an experiment. Something that under no circumstances can make you sad. For example, how or where you will store your trash bins. ;-)

I just want to say that you have withstood a lot said over 22 pages and will surely live in your dream house, which is much more important than sometimes just doing everything reasonably.

Thank you again, I’m glad.

All the best to you and your project!

All the best to you as well, as well as for your endeavor. I always enjoy reading from you.

Unfortunately, I have trouble quoting when an emoji is in the way, like this You should ask in time and not when it is too late. In time means when you see it and also know it. Take photos and upload them. Now it might still be possible to install other windows…

So now window sills have been installed on all our beautiful windows that we wanted as passageways to the outside, and we are still pondering whether and how we can turn the window doors into the desired patio doors.

For the conversion to flat thresholds, I would choose one or two of the floor-to-ceiling windows (but do not postpone this, reorder now). I am always amazed at which details you do not inquire about in time.