How long have you been saving equity for your house?

“Normal“ referred to income distribution. No one said: We are normal personalities despite unusually high income. Rather, normal incomes were suggested - and that is simply often not factually correct. It has nothing to do with being able to be happy for others.

But I find it interesting what already counts as envy...

Exactly this mindset has led me to avoid personnel responsibility...

So, since you are now the second one, I guess I really have to respond.
I have a 41-hour week and those hours are worked. If he ever has questions, it's only about matters that I have already conclusively dealt with. But in 90% of the cases, it’s nothing that can’t wait until the next day.
If I, for whatever reason, finish work after 4 or 5 hours, then I either built up overtime beforehand or make up the time accordingly. Thanks to flexitime, I can do my work between 6 a.m. and 8 p.m. And yes, I get to decide when I work.
And don’t worry, if it’s a quick, brief matter that the boss wants to know about, of course that will be briefly discussed, but if it’s something more elaborate and I have an appointment, then it just has to wait until tomorrow. Maybe that came across a bit too extreme.

Before someone comes up with some cliché again, they should please name it. Then at least I can refute it (at least for myself).

Cheers :)

I have definitely been very, very lucky financially in life. Nevertheless, I claim that in the long run, this is not enough to be financially "secure."

After my bachelor's degree, I saved everything from my first salary except for 1,000€ monthly. One year later, alongside a 50-hour workweek, I started a master's degree and got married. Another year later, we started planning/building a house, invested a lot of parental allowance [EL], and with moving in, we had our first child. Additionally, there was a job change, completion of the master's degree, and the second child. The job change was an absolute jackpot. Work-life balance perfect, climate great, pay fantastic. Yes, I gladly admit that we received 180k from our parents for the land. It would never have been possible otherwise. Nevertheless, more is involved. In 2017, an investment in the cryptocurrency sector and now a net salary well over 4k with tax class 4 mean that at under 30 years old we feel very well positioned financially. If one of the elements—allowance, investment, or salary—had not come through, the situation would look completely different. We know about our luck and appreciate it very much. Nevertheless, we have also given a lot for it.

I find the expectation to be able to study immediately your one favorite subject full-time without having to work on the side completely exaggerated.

The question is always also to whom the expectation is directed. Formulating your own expectation and acting accordingly yourself is something different than delegating the responsibility for fulfilling the expectation to others, e.g. family or society.
It is difficult in our bubble of prosperity to recognize what is "demanding." It is helpful from time to time to come to rest, look beyond the everyday horizon, and reflect on which everyday conveniences we take for granted. Whoever succeeds in doing so will be rewarded with a pleasant feeling of gratitude.

I would not claim that this is envy but simply different views on life or different attitudes and philosophies of life. It is nothing bad if such "criteria" fall? That encourages a discussion - or do you only have THE one opinion?

I would not have chosen the term envy in this context either. I find this forum pleasantly "low in envy." Of course, there is only THE one opinion. Nevertheless, I notice that here it often is about "winning" a discussion. A discussion lives by representing and advocating an attitude/opinion/standpoint/thesis. At the same time, a discussion lives by attentively and differentiatingly engaging with the attitude/opinion/standpoint/thesis of the fellow discussant (not necessarily opponent). If the part of attentive listening is missing, the impression quickly arises that it is about THE opinion.

The question is always also to whom the claim is addressed. To formulate one's own claim

Exactly. If it were a claim "to oneself," working on the side to fulfill the claim would always be a considered option. Or rather a detour to the same goal, which is more financially feasible. This very thought was much too shortchanged because: I was reacting to - colloquially: "Bafög for everyone." Therefore, of course, I meant claims directed at others.

We know our luck and appreciate it very much. Nevertheless, we have also given a lot for it.

And this first sentence is something different than "that's just normal." Very likeable and everyone should be happy for it!