No building land due to new EU native model?

Here is a little tip from a mom of a 3-year-old. The person who mainly takes care of the child - I assume that will be your wife - should work close to where you live. I work 3 bike minutes from my job. By bike, it takes me a maximum of 10 minutes to get to the daycare. My son is really disgustingly healthy and was always sent home with only a suspicion that was never confirmed. Conclusion: I appreciate my short distances. Not only do you, as a mother (or father), manage to stay at work as long as possible and then rush off to pick up the child and maybe quickly do some shopping on the way, no, you are immediately reachable in emergencies. In 30 minutes I have the child at home and can continue working remotely. Do not underestimate the stress factor! Before, we lived 20 minutes from my workplace. That’s ridiculous here in the Ruhr area. But my stress level (and I am really hard to stress) was significantly higher than it is now. Example: I usually work until 3:30 p.m. Then I pack up calmly and head towards the daycare. But on some days, precisely at 3:30 p.m., an emergency comes in that urgently needs to be dealt with. Now I can still work easily for 30 minutes before I really have to leave. I don’t have to build in a buffer because there could be traffic jam. Then it’s really worth considering whether you bring forward the family planning a bit. Either you get a plot of land faster like this or later you don’t have to worry about lost income anymore. Then the proximity to the grandparents: Please please don’t firmly plan them as caregivers. It’s great if you can leave the kids there on weekends sometimes (we do this every second living unit) or the parents take over care when sick. But don’t plan it firmly. Calculate as if you pay full daycare fees. If then there is some money left over, you just have more.

People who commute are less healthy, more overweight, more stressed, and unhappier; this has long been proven by studies. And it was further found that the car is the unhealthiest form of commuting. Overtime at work is better than commuting from the aspects mentioned above. These are the facts and we don't need to sugarcoat them here.

The statement is still nonsense, nobody will talk to you on the phone at 7 a.m.

You can't say that, it always depends on the job. My husband makes phone calls every morning on his way to work in his car, and that is also at 7 a.m. There are also companies that operate around the clock.

Best regards
Sabine

Yes, when you have to commute, you tell yourself many things, e.g. that you even need the half-hour buffer. No one needs a mental half hour between private life and work. That's just talked into you. A healthy person is flexible and just puts such roles aside. He can also discuss a technical question on the phone while sitting in the garden.

But yes: you shouldn’t eat where you sh**. But that applies more to members of the community, city, and country who may be subject to the suspicion of their neighbors.

Regarding grandma/grandpa: our little one is now one year old. I’m looking forward to when she can sleep at our place, grandma and grandpa. On weekends. We still work. But otherwise, we have our own lives. Dreams just like you. We are no different people than you, just a little older. The only good thing about retirement age will be to have time for yourself.

Yes, when you have to commute, you convince yourself of many things, for example that you even need the half-hour buffer. No one needs a mental half-hour between private life and work. That's just something you've talked yourself into.

Is it your modest, tolerant nature that makes you believe you decide what people need and what they don’t?

Is it your modest, tolerant nature that makes you believe you decide what people need and what they don’t?

It is my more than 30 years of insight in working and professional life. Certainly not only my opinion. If it were only about this, I would make that clear.