Interpretation of Seller Behavior

Thanks.
The house looks great, it will never go for less than 400k...rightfully so.

Is that so?

I don’t know Schleswig-Holstein or the conditions there at all. Feels like endless land and few people – plus rough weather. However, if I compare that with OWL, I would say that the triangle Bielefeld - Detmold - Gütersloh could be called a "boom" region with high construction/land prices. Of course, only to a certain extent. I wouldn’t even compare that roughly with Münster or even Düsseldorf in NRW.

In the "middle of nowhere" – however, a spa town with BAD attached before the village name – my parents sold their house 3 years ago for 280k. Location is north of the Wiehen Hills. Couldn’t get more. House with basement and finished attic, brick-clad and good layout. Overall in good condition. I would have bought it myself if it weren’t one hour or two hours travel time from our jobs. I thought it was really crazy for our standards here that it couldn’t go higher. In my eyes way too cheap – but apparently that (back then) was really normal there. While new build condominiums were relatively comparable to our prices here.

By the way, Boris at around 100€ in a comparable area up there has a buddy with family who sold several building plots fully developed for 5€ above the standard land value (<5%).

EDIT The plot is according to Boris at 100k... you can easily add 50% on top of that...

That really depends a lot on location. See above.

I have looked at the ad by now and have to say - no matter whether and for how much money I would want to have it: the description is exemplary. I do not want to take sides with the "knowledge" about the object, whether it would be worth price X or Y or any value in between. Rather, from my point of view, only the following "count":
2. the seller can justifiably feel "entitled" to his reaction from his perspective just as much as the original poster (OP) to his offer, and
1. the OP should not want to learn from the discussion to behave "smarter" next time, because: I agree with the interpretation that the OP's subconscious did not actually want to make this deal. And in this regard, I think the OP should thank his subconscious for the hint to cross off the used object search and, listening to his inner desire, continue to pursue the "building" project.
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I cannot understand this sentence at all. Of course, there can always be issues with existing properties, but also with new builds. In some areas without building plots (and these are limited after all), there are hardly any alternatives. Why do you need a lot of experience? There are lots of people who buy existing properties? Especially since sellers are not always professionals either.

I primarily meant: "those whose inner desire only sees an existing property as a substitute will not really be happy"; and secondly, that an existing property (as a classic secondhand house from the previous owner, a developer object is another category) follows different "rules" than a new build project. With a new build you have a plan, which you can still vary during implementation, now you have to look for craftsmen etc., for materials and labor there are market-influenced prices but they are relatively calculable, and many helpers in the implementation are professionals. With a used property a shift on the plot is no longer negotiable and a different equipment does not mean just to forego buying tile A and choose tile B, but to knock out tile A for tile B no matter how much "remaining life" it might still have, and the helper in the dream realization is the seller, a private person with all the subjectivity that entails. Where in the new build project one would haggle, with the used property, as you can see here, one rather bets - and that requires a completely different background of life experience that must be brought along if the project is to succeed.

I have now also looked at the house. I’m saying it quite kindly, you should have bid what the house is worth to you and not followed the nonsense of the appraiser. Lessons learned. So wait, keep searching &- planning and do better next time.

Feels like endless land and few people – plus rough weather.

You are right in the middle of the place where others go on vacation and voluntarily let the rough wind blow their stress away.
You don’t need a big city there. There are jobs, but they are not comparable to the banking environment in Frankfurt.
Quality of life through the provinces and the coast.

I’m saying this quite kindly, you should have offered what the house is worth to you and not followed the appraiser’s chatter.

But honestly, why do you even get an appraiser if not to follow them? I can only somewhat understand the accusation, and you can also give an estimated price based on feeling without an expert.

I don't understand why everyone here calls it 'rude' to make an offer below the asking price.

Of course, it is not rude, but it was tactically rather unwise.
You can certainly dare a confident counteroffer if the property has already been listed on the relevant portals for a few weeks and the seller probably suspects that his house is anything but the hot commodity he thought it was at first.
But right at the beginning, when the seller first receives a bunch of inquiries and is still in the middle of viewings, something like that simply does not promise any chance of success and only leads to kicking yourself out of the race.

It would be better to get in touch promptly after the viewing, thank for the pleasant tour of the house, praise the house, but at the same time emphasize that you currently still differ "a bit" in price. Provide your phone number again and that's it. Under no circumstances should you name a specific amount or anything like that.
If the famous fool among the interested parties is around, there is nothing you can do anyway; then the house is reserved or inactive after 3 days.
But if everything else falls through, you gladly fall back on the candidate who particularly stayed pleasantly in the memory — and not on the one who offered much less right away and set an ultimatum.