Evolith
2021-04-14 11:24:37
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....and I had already come to terms with being one of the few parents whose children were not begged by Harvard right after birth. I don’t find what you describe so bad and I managed quite well back then, when we had a similar situation. He went down from the Gymnasium and almost "ended up" in the Hauptschule; a tough time.....FOR THE BOY! Everyone around him was/is so successful, partly showered with money, and seems to have an easy life and you sit there as a young guy and don’t understand anything anymore, last but not least the demanding parents who often forgot the mess or simply their own youthful luck.
No, I think I’m the only one in the family who has walked through life quite relaxed (and with a lot of luck). The rest have suffered setbacks and had to fight for many things. My son will definitely be among them. I already know that in first grade we will have to have one or two serious talks with the teacher. :rolleyes: He’s just a boy ... a real boy. I’ll be very grateful if his nonsense stays so harmless that he can deal with the consequences himself.
Funny episode: Recently, he stormed through the house heavily armed with a bare bottom and devoted war cries. My colleagues on the call had a great laugh. For me, it was a mix between smiling and shame.
Oh, if only you were right and it was really only UNTIL puberty ... how wonderful that would be. I’m currently experiencing it in my environment, where the young people are almost done with their studies and it’s still like that. At home you always remain a child, that was even true for me when I was already 50. You have to actively cut that umbilical cord!
Now that you say it, I remember a university friend who still lived in his mom’s basement at 28. When I asked in complete disbelief how he managed that, he just laughed: Mom does his laundry (also collects it in his germ room), tidies it up, cooks for him, luxury hotel Mom. Horrible!
No one ever believes me that I kick my kids out of the house despite their potentially possible financial independence. “But you’ll be sad then?!” Sure, I’ll cry my eyes out. But it’s not just about me. That it is so important for these young people to still do that while they are flexible, many don’t consider. Fortunately, most actually handle the subject quite well.
Could you please submit that as a bill proposal to the Bundestag?
I’ll start a petition for a start :D