Just before agreeing to purchase a condominium unit - Questions and doubts

Yes, I agree. I just found out that a house from the 70s we viewed, with an 800 sqm plot and about 200 sqm living space, also in need of renovation, has changed owners for just under 700k. This is in a village near Emmendingen... I will report back on how we decided; at the moment, we are definitely in favor of buying the apartment. Thank you very much for the input.

@Piniponk isn’t it the same with a semi-detached house/terraced house? There is potential for conflict in all types of housing. On that basis, you shouldn’t buy anything at all, only rent.

It’s not about absolute safety for me but about probability. And the probability of conflicts (of course also of positive experiences) increases in a heterogeneous group with 8 parties involved compared to a group with only 2 parties involved. Very different groups of people seem to live in this 8-party building, which can be great but also difficult. Ultimately, it depends on how capable you are of handling conflict, and I am not capable at all.

I also don't see a blister there - it's still uncomfortable.

I'm not concerned with absolute security but with probability. And the probability of conflicts (of course also of positive experiences) increases in a heterogeneous group to which 8 parties belong, as opposed to a group to which only 2 parties belong. In this 8-party building, very different groups of people seem to live, which can be great but also difficult. Ultimately, it depends on how able to handle conflict one is, and I simply am not.

I can’t fully agree with that, because while the probability may be higher with multiple parties, the probability of positive effects is also higher at the same time. It is said that with 3 parties sooner or later a 2:1 situation often forms, whereas a 5:3 situation would feel better to me; not necessarily in case of conflict, but already in discussions about upcoming changes etc. With very small groups, I see the risk that one person tends to see themselves as the "boss" as greater than with larger ones.
But as you already say , that also depends on so many personal parameters that can’t be foreseen. I split my old house and the trouble started right away. Only when number 3 joined did it get better, although in the end I gave up altogether. But that is just a "single case"; if you have a functioning 2- or 3-person community, that can be really great. If......
It is always important to me that I can exit again in the worst case, and with such a condominium that should be possible.

If you are the icebreaker at the first meeting, take some leadership, and make it clear that you are pleased and well-intentioned, you can secure a position of an "untouchable" from the very beginning. This is characterized by the fact that you become the first point of contact for everyone else right from the start. Now you implicitly have influence, which you usually do not have to use, because your word naturally gains weight. It is the form and the ability to steer group dynamic processes that enormously increase the likelihood of good coexistence. It almost always works and in any situation if you master it. You are left alone when you want peace, you do not become the target of an attack, and you notice that there are now very few people in your own environment whom you would call an "idiot".

If at the first meeting you are the icebreaker, take some leadership and make it clear that you are pleased and well-intentioned, you can secure a position of "untouchable" from the start. This is characterized by the fact that you immediately become the first point of contact for everyone else. Now you have implicit influence, which you usually do not have to use, because your word gains a natural weight. It is the form and the ability to steer group dynamic processes that greatly increase the likelihood of good coexistence. It almost always works and in every situation if you master this. You are left alone if you want peace, you do not become the target of an attack, and you realize that there are very rarely people in your own environment whom you would call "idiots."

Now that I read this, I know that is exactly what I wanted to say—— Those who only see idiots around them should ask themselves anyway whether it is really the many cars coming towards them that are the wrong-way drivers.