Feasibility Single-family house - Cost statement / Financing realistic?

It was clear that if it’s not , then at the latest you feel personally offended. I don’t give a damn who gets married, it’s such a subjective decision, just like the question whether to have a basement or not… Although – my personal highlight was a wedding at the shooting club, where there weren’t even tablecloths. But there was a CD player with ACDC live in the background. It couldn’t have been more unfriendly to guests. The 100 euro gift for guests really annoyed me because you had the feeling you were really just there to leave money, not because the wedding couple wanted to celebrate with their guests. Personally, if I’m already putting at least 10,000 on the table, I want everything to be nice for me (!). That has nothing to do with fancy stuff. Absolutely not. This “these days you have to do this or that” blah blah is getting annoying. There really are people who consciously make their decisions like that, even if it doesn’t fit into your world view. By the way, I never claimed that a big wedding used to be cheaper, you’re the only one who reflexively keeps coming back to the claim that my generation’s expectations are just too high – even though that wasn’t the topic here! I also didn’t complain that we will probably come out at about 20,000 all in, we think it’s worth it! If we couldn’t afford it, we wouldn’t do it, it’s that simple. I don’t know why this keeps coming up again and again. (How one can “easily” come under 10,000 all in I don’t know, except if you have 50 guests and serve meatloaf sandwiches (no offense) – but I don’t care because it’s not my wedding.)

We weren't that extreme - especially since the formalities took a lot of time beforehand. We also couldn't plan anything 100% elaborate because our higher regional court still had to decide if we were really allowed to get married - my husband is from a third country.
So we had a date reserved at the registry office and submitted all the documents - but it was only 100% certain with the decision of the OLG (higher regional court) that we could actually use the date. That means we invited everyone and added: "it might still be postponed" :D

Otherwise, we chose the budget version everywhere.
My husband bought his suit off the rack, from S.Oliver. That was doubly practical because since it wasn’t a wedding suit, he could still use it later for job interviews and other events with smart clothing.
I ordered my wedding dress online; I paid 80€. For the garden party, we did a lot ourselves. We got a kiddie pool for 5€, filled it with cold water, and kept drinks cold in it. I really wanted a candy bar - used storage jars I already had and filled them myself. And a few paper bags to fill—those I also still had at home. The food came from a caterer around the corner—party platters, little schnitzels, etc. That cost 250€ total for our 40 people. Friends helped a lot as well. A friend sponsored and made and decorated the wedding cake herself—an amazing thing! Another friend baked something as well.
I didn’t want disposable dishes—we then bought the cheapest plates and bowls and cutlery at IKEA. Mostly, I stored the things in a box; you can always use them for bigger outdoor parties again. That came to 120€ altogether.
Photos were taken by an acquaintance of mine—for the cost price of 80€ for gas. I knew him from before; I once modeled for him. I am forever grateful to him, such a price-performance ratio for such high-quality pictures was really great luck.
My former singing teacher played music at the registry office—also on a friendly basis.
For brunch after the wedding, we went to a small café; my mother treated us (she had announced beforehand that she would pay because my siblings also got something sponsored). It was a "gourmet brunch," looked very delicious, in a close family circle for about 150€. My best friend gave me the bridal bouquet as a gift.
I mostly made the decorations myself. Crafted cutlery sets with names, sprayed old glass bottles with metallic spray paint as candle holders. Many such things.
I’ll attach a few photos for you.

All in all, we had costs of 1500€. I think, in the end, we made quite a surplus—but that wasn’t intended; I didn’t expect people to be so generous with wedding gifts.

And yes, you can also manage under €10,000 without a liver cheese sandwich with 70 guests, believe me.

Cozy, family-like, private, nothing pretentious where you have to think every time the shirt slips out of the pants that someone is watching, lots of sweet, beautiful little crafts that in my opinion look better than a "professional" candy bar for 500€.

You, even if we Swabians stick together sol

Now I'm curious after all.
Please break it down!

You, even if we Swabians stick together sol

Now I'm curious after all.
Please break it down!