Feasibility Single-family house - Cost statement / Financing realistic?

I also always find that saying funny.
As a young person, you believe it too. You believe it exactly as long as you feel your firstborn child sleeping evenly breathing on your own chest. On that day, I felt for the first time what this "happiness" really is, that everyone is always talking about.

(she wrote, with slightly misty eyes, after she just stormed out of the office because the toddler by now had one tantrum too many for mommy's fragile thread of patience, leaving daddy standing in the rain with the mess o_O)

My colleague once said that marriage is overrated. She went with her husband to the registry office, took a number, handed in the documents, paid 118.99 €, and left unromantically 10 minutes later. They are still married. They saved stress and money, and they also have a few photos.

You are funny - I am currently planning our wedding, with 100 people.
Shall I give you some current figures?

Inquired at three hotels about a hall: 2x minimum turnover 9,000, once 10,000 (so for "location," food, and drinks) - no luxury places. Normal country inns.
Asked four photographers: None cheaper than 2,800 for 8 hours.
DJ already booked: 2,000
Decoration for the hall: At least 2,000, probably more
Then there is dress, suit, invitations, and all that stuff.

And no, this is not supposed to be something "exclusive." It's similar to building a house. I once thought that we could manage quite well with our budget. The reality in booming industries is different.

You guys are funny - I'm currently planning our wedding, with 100 people.
Should I tell you some current figures?

Asked in three hotels about a hall: 2x minimum turnover 9,000, once 10,000 (so for "venue", food and drinks) - no luxury places. Normal country inns.
Asked four photographers: None cheaper than 2,800 for 8 hours.
DJ already booked: 2,000
Decoration for the hall: At least 2,000, rather more
Then there's also dress, suit, invitations, yada yada.

And no, this is not supposed to be anything "exclusive". It's similar to building a house. I thought you could manage quite well with our budget. The reality in booming industries is just different.

We are currently doing the same - have also asked a DJ - costs around €1,200
Decoration is incredibly expensive - we're getting lots of stuff from Kik etc. and then doing lots of crafting ourselves at home :D - you can actually save money that way
Photographer: As a tip: really ask all those Instagram hobby photographers. I've been to several weddings where only such "amateur photographers" were working - it was really super professional!

Yes, of course, and naturally the hall rental... I can understand if you don't want a community hall. But that saves the most, of course.
Bring your own drinks, especially also the alcoholic things...

We will easily stay under €10,000 - we'll just have to arrange with a few things that might be more "practical"... Well, whatever

You guys are funny - I'm currently planning our wedding with 100 people. Should I give you some current figures? Asked at three hotels about a hall: 2x minimum turnover 9,000, once 10,000 (so for "venue," food, and drinks) - no luxury places. Normal country inns. Asked four photographers: None cheaper than 2,800 for 8 hours. DJ already booked: 2,000 Decoration for the hall: At least 2,000, more likely more So, on top of that comes dress, suit, invitations, blah blah. And no, this is not meant to be something "exclusive." It's similar to building a house. I once thought we could do quite well with our budget. But reality in booming industries is different.

Due to Corona, reducing to 5 already takes the stress away and saves money :)

We are currently working on it too - have also asked a DJ - costs around €1,200 Decoration is incredibly expensive - we get a lot from Kik etc. and then do a lot of crafting ourselves at home :D - you can actually save money that way Photographer: A tip: really ask all the Instagram hobby photographers. I was at several weddings where only such "amateur photographers" were there - it was really super professional! Sure, and of course the hall rental... I can understand if you don't want a community hall. But that saves the most of course. Getting drinks yourself, especially alcoholic ones... We will easily stay under €10,000 - then we just have to make do with a few things that could be "more practical"... Well, whatever

That was not an option for me. If anything, then properly. Either spend no money at all or do it "properly". But that is of course subjective. I have already been a guest at various multipurpose hall or shooting club weddings - no. No.

That was out of the question for me. If anything, then properly. Either don't spend any money at all or do it "properly." But of course, that's subjective. I've already been to various multipurpose hall or shooting club weddings - no. No.

Yes, that's true, it has its own "charm"... But it always depends on the wedding guests.

If we were to have a "fancy" wedding here in the countryside, that would be rather strange! :D

The most important thing is that it suits you!

But actually, with a bit more personal effort etc., you can save one or the other thousand without really having to make compromises - but of course, as you say, that's purely subjective.