Feasibility Single-family house - Cost statement / Financing realistic?

Hello, we are in the house construction forum. So you are supposed to celebrate in your own house and garden!

Of course on the outdoor area paid for by the wedding budget!!!! :p

That's where it starts... Nowadays, a wedding for just under/around €10,000 is already considered "inferior" in society.

I observe that too.

But at the same time, the opposite model is becoming increasingly popular: getting married as small as possible and only inviting the closest family circle. A work colleague was even content with the ceremony in the registrar’s office because a more festive room was booked. Nothing else.

My wedding was also a profitable affair overall. The father-in-law paid for the food and celebration for 12 people, and the remaining cash gifts exceeded the costs for the dress, hotel, etc.

Hmm, I don’t know if too much importance is attached to a day that definitely only occurs once in a lifetime. One could just as well argue that the house and everything around it nowadays have too high a value. "Room can be found in the smallest hut for a happily loving couple", Friedrich Schiller already knew that. I simply suspect that if I am, for example, 93 years old and look back on my life in the senior residence, I will rather think of my wedding and the beautiful hours with friends and relatives long gone to heaven than about laying any natural stone slabs on the terrace, planting the thuja hedge, or inaugurating the Weber grill, because their cost unfortunately meant Uncle Dieter or Aunt Elisabeth had to be removed from the guest list.

Personally, I wouldn’t have wanted to celebrate in some community center multipurpose hall where I then have to clean up for four hours totally hungover after the party or the next morning to make sure I return the key to some picky manager punctually by 11 a.m. the next day. I really enjoyed simply driving home after our celebration at 4 a.m. in the restaurant and not having to care about anything anymore. Of course, that costs something, but it was worth it to me. Or the rings. Of course, you can also use the cheapest material, but after two years they look exactly like ours at the silver wedding. "But hey, look at our new awning..." I wouldn’t underestimate the topic of photos either. After all, these are the pictures I still want to look at fondly even in 50 years. Nothing against any amateur photographers, but I would just as little entrust that to amateurs as I would the installation of our electrical system in the house. We received 1,100 pictures from the photographer, many of them elaborately retouched, and 98 percent of them were of very good quality. I gladly paid 1,200 euros for that. No one can take these memories away from you anymore. If I have to wait 1-2 years longer for the completion of the outdoor facilities because of that, then so be it. But that’s just my personal opinion.

because of their costs, Uncle Dieter or Aunt Elisabeth unfortunately had to be removed from the guest list.

That's exaggerated now, no one is talking about that.

Ultimately, I am of the opinion that you can also celebrate a wedding beautifully without spending 15-20k, as is common nowadays.

There are already trash TV formats like "Between Tulle and Tears" or "4 Weddings and a Dream Trip" --- unfortunately this is becoming more and more reality, and in my opinion, money was really spent lavishly there!

And let's be honest, you only do something with your 1100 pictures if you create an album from them; otherwise, you won't look at them anymore anyway... It's like vacation pictures, no one looks at anything that's just on the phone or hard drive anymore. We had pictures taken by your typical "Instagram hobby photographer." I would bet that any amateur (which we all are, after all) wouldn't have noticed a difference to the professional photographer who charges four times as much.

If anything, you should also invest in a nice album or something similar – but I am of the opinion that a lot of things today are done only because people have the illusion that it's part of it, otherwise it wouldn't be enough for society.

Anyway... Off-topic!! :)

It’s really about your own life philosophy anyway… There are enough people who would never tie themselves down with a house and would rather travel the world all year round, ideally without a job.

You should rather think about what you really want, what is financially feasible, and where your priority lies... What annoys me is this constant: I want everything, won't cut back anywhere – it will somehow work. That is doomed to fail.

Aunt Elisabeth was never invited anyway. It's a pity for Uncle Dieter, but she doesn't let him leave the house alone...

If I hear that again: the wedding is the most beautiful day in life! Then marriage just goes downhill? Then better not marry, so the relationship stays nice? In some posts I lose the imagination: €3000 for a dress that will never be worn again after one day? I would be too stingy for that.

This one here

I personally would not have wanted to celebrate in some community center multipurpose hall, where after the party or the next morning I would be hungover and have to clean up for four hours to make sure to return the key on time to some picky administrator by 11 am the next day.

on the other hand I can totally understand, I would have opened my wallet for that.

Most couples who get married are already settled, they don't need the usual gifts. Many set up a piggy bank for the party or the honeymoon. That is sensible. That you have to add another €20k on top so that it becomes a beautiful day, I think is crazy. Can you at least deduct that from taxes? Otherwise it will take years until the marriage at least becomes a break-even game...