Feasibility Single-family house - Cost statement / Financing realistic?

Whereas - my personal highlight was a wedding in the shooting club, there weren’t even tablecloths. But there was a CD player with ACDC live in the background. It hardly could have been more unwelcoming for guests. That really annoyed me about the 100 euro gift for the hosts.

Agreed. We were at my cousin’s wedding party, which was more like a barbecue party. Tent in the garden, beer benches, Aldi sausages from the grill in wheat rolls, salad from the aunt, drinks self-service directly from the crate, hardly any decoration, 15-year-old neighbor boy as DJ, and so on.
Afterwards, there were sideways glances about why there were only 30 euros in our envelope.
But when it came to building the house, of course only the best of the best was allowed. It’s a shame if you deliberately ruin your big day like that.

Agreement. We were at my cousin’s wedding party, it was a better barbecue. Tent in the garden, beer benches, Aldi sausages from the grill in a wheat roll, salad from the aunt, drinks self-service directly from the crate, hardly any decoration, 15-year-old neighbor boy as DJ, etc. Afterwards, there were sideways looks about why there were only 30 euros in our envelope. But when building the house, of course only the best of the best was allowed. It’s a pity when you deliberately ruin the big day like that.

I would be angry too if I had gifted over 30€ here :D

But yes, honestly, I don’t really know anything like that… Most weddings are actually "kind of like" what we are planning as well. They don’t cost a fortune and I really enjoy these cozy weddings with a "self-built bar" in the gymnasium or something similar, in my opinion everything is more relaxed there… But as I said, no one has to feel attacked, it’s a completely subjective opinion.

I just want to show that it can also be very nice if you don’t spend 20,000€.

A wedding like kati's is great, we had the same at the registry office. Just ask how her "big" wedding would have been planned if it had happened before you start comparing apples and oranges here.

As far as currently planned, that's our wedding. I don't need a big wedding afterwards. We recently left the churches anyway, for various reasons. So for a big celebration, only a free ceremony would remain anyway. I think after Corona I would rather celebrate a bigger housewarming or something like that. I used to have this vague idea of the big dream wedding all in white, but when I first looked into the prices you have to pay today to marry the classic way "in a hall" – which I would have liked – the price-performance ratio just didn't work for me anymore. It all kind of comes together like this. If I rent a hall for several thousand euros, I don't want to show up in an 80€ dress (although I still have to say that I really liked the dress). And then I might want a band. And a professional photographer. And yes – then you’re very quickly into five figures without question. And that's where it stops for me somehow. There’s not that much romance in me. I can't help but calculate what else I could do with the 15,000€. Have my garden laid out for the next 30 years. Or a world trip. And for me, the price-performance ratio just doesn’t fit for a single day. But: I don't criticize anyone who thinks differently, and I've been to some very expensive weddings and I can understand why people do that. I see the appeal in it. For me personally, it just wouldn’t be worth the money.

Now I'm curious after all. Please break it down!

I don't see any problem at all!!!

For us: 70 × €60 = €4200 restaurant costs good food, drinks included wedding cake included 10 cakes from family/friends decorations lovingly handmade and decorated the ballroom ourselves €800 bridal gown, suit already owned €400 DJ for 3 hours 9pm-12am €300 photographer for 1.5 hours shooting €70 hairdresser €50 bridal bouquet €50 sparkling wine for sparkling wine reception, glasses borrowed €0 friends as vocal choir, instrumentalists in the church

That makes €6000 plus some little extras here and there, so probably a bit more.

For the €60 catering per person there was a large varied delicious evening buffet, coffee, cake dishes and wedding cake, soft drinks, beer and a few bottles of wine.

We missed nothing. We didn't calculate it because we didn't care, but no guest came under €50. That means roughly €6000-€3500=€2500. That day was definitely worth it.

By the way, at absolutely no wedding have I ever regretted my gift, because it is supposed to be a gift and not a payment for the wedding celebration. And that's exactly what causes pressure. That some guest gets upset that they didn't get enough for their entrance fee. I hope we didn't even invite such guests...

By the way, I have never felt sorry for my gift at any wedding because it is supposed to be a gift and not a payment for the wedding celebration. And that's exactly what causes pressure. That some guest gets upset because they didn't get enough for their entrance fee. I hope we didn't even invite such guests...

Really now?
Well, here with us it is customary that the guest gift at least covers what one thinks the wedding costs. The rest is a gift. That's just how it is here. But if my host doesn't even feel like setting the table, then I find that extremely rude. Why would I even invite people if I so openly don't want to have a party? I don't understand.

By the way, a quick question. What is a usual gift for the host when you don’t know the expenses? Is 100€ too little? Is 200€ too much? I really can’t judge....

You don’t decide that only once you’re on site and see how many people there are, what kind of location, and how much booze there was :D

Oh, and regarding big parties: Some people might NOT want that at all, no matter how much it costs. I find such parties absolutely creepy. The version with just the two of us at the registry office would be my favorite... I’m not marrying to marry, but to be married afterwards.