Indigenous model - is this still legal?

: Who among the "locals" has ever invited the "newcomers" to the usual village social events? It is so easy to say that the newcomers do not integrate. To lump them all together, to watch them suspiciously, to register their "mistakes". I was born in such a village, know both sides from long experience.

The problem is the large new housing developments. If only newcomers build there, it is, as has already correctly recognized, like an island. The clubs will not invite everyone at every doorbell and every social occasion in the village. Our new neighbors are also newcomers but they are in an old residential area where we have now closed a gap. Integration there is different than when 30 houses are built on greenfield land and 28 of them go to outsiders.

The city that wants and gets more and more companies etc. must provide housing. Affordable for everyone.

The problem is that everyone ideally wants to live at Marienplatz for €500 warm rent....

Since we are currently talking about integrating into the village, I have a question:

We are building in a district that is more like its own small village. Opposite there are no houses, to our left are two new single-family homes and then the "old part" of the village begins. To the right is a gap and after that another 4 houses until the village exit.

How "far" and when would you imagine? Up to which house? We would definitely invite the neighbors to the topping-out ceremony, but are considering whether we should already start knocking on doors before that. We have already had several contacts with the direct neighbor to our left and everything is fine there.

I also bought a little house in an incorporated village; the city has grown up to it, but it still maintains its own identity. There are quite a few newly built houses, not a new development area, but developed building gaps. Many people greet very friendly, inquire, and are happy that construction is finally continuing. Across the street is the kindergarten, so you meet many families. One of my neighbors (and her daughter next door) are "locals." I have known both for more than 20 years, from hobbies, though not just superficially. While I get along very well with the mother, the daughter apparently expressed that she doesn't really like that I moved in there. Apparently, she would have preferred someone with boys; her son supposedly has no buddy, since there are only girls in the village... I haven't met her yet here on site. Another dad (lives a bit down the street, less than 100m away) asked me if children would also be moving in; I said yes, two girls. Oh, that would be nice, there are only boys, he himself has three; a pregnant woman passed by, yes, she also had two boys, what would it be this time? She just waved it off, another boy... That somehow contradicts itself. My impression? There is also a divide here between "locals" and newcomers. And it certainly is not due to the arrogance of the "new ones." They are, in my impression, anything but snooty. Nor is it because of island life; there is no island life here either. Whether they go to the Maypole raising, I don't know – I haven't been there this year yet, but next year I will make sure to go. I'm already curious. Another example: I used to have occasional business in Sauerland. There we met an "Ossi" in the company concerned. After the reunification, he was relocated there for work and had already been there for 15 years. He said he had no chance; he would remain an outsider his whole life. The "dividing line" there is, do you have a Christmas tree plantation? If yes, great; otherwise: you remain an outsider. He wanted to leave because he didn't feel comfortable. The managing director of the company, the technical director, and other senior employees were unreachable all December because they had to cut and sell their Christmas trees. That also exists...

The new houses are the “new” in the street. Unless they happen to be the grandchildren and everyone knows them. So I would invite the entire street. From experience, only 50% show up anyway and those who come are nice and you can ^ of course ^ make them. At such parties it’s also always good to hear who gets along well with whom. And initially remain neutral.

Invite everyone. There aren’t many and no one can say you don’t want contact. At most 50% come anyway.
I think the most important thing is fence conversations and not excluding yourself when helper lists or fixed invitations come up in kindergarten/school.


There are all kinds everywhere. Who knows what upset the good one.