I would think about whether all the renunciation, the massive personal effort, and the associated stress are really worth it? I’m referring to KFW, especially 40plus...
A good point, until a few days ago we would have agreed here as well and would have tended to approach the project as a KFW 55 house (possibly not even KFW 55).
Due to the now increased funding (€30,000 repayment grant as well as 35% BAFA on the heating system), the whole thing is now almost a zero-sum game in terms of effort.
Not to be underestimated are then the savings regarding ongoing costs, which give us even more leeway in running costs but have not yet been considered as such in the household budget. For electricity and heating, we have currently calculated €250 per month here; in a KFW 40+ house, we expect a maximum of €100 per month in this regard.