Well, now, detached from the discussion about the sense/nonsense of some posts, the general tone (including me) seems to be that it all appears to be pretty much sewn up by a button.
€2055/month in burden less €140 maintenance reserve results in €1915/month.
With €5200/month that is just under 37%. I find that anything but exaggerated. I consciously leave out bonuses etc. because I now know how it goes: new garden furniture, awning, garden house, vacation, Christmas, etc. all need to be paid for as well.
But in my opinion, there are 3 other points where it slips up here:
1. On one hand, the OP here gives the impression of the prime example of consumptive greediness, listing the wine cellar next to the grill hut, the 2 fat cars and many very expensive vacations, only to add that in the future one will no longer need all that and wants to simplify life anyway. If you really manage that so easily, you have my respect. I do not want to imply anything, but it is very hard for me to believe that one would - precisely in one of the most stressful phases of one’s life (building a house) - turn one’s life upside down and give up many things which one had before and probably liked.
2. On the other hand, €1500 installments with a financing volume of €500,000 correspond to an annuity of just 3.6%. With 1.15% for 15 years, you then still have a residual debt of about €300,000.
That would be too risky for me personally, but that is a matter of taste. And when I read the OP’s posts, he seems to be more risk-friendly, after all he already plans internally with an inheritance ...
If the interest rates for the follow-up financing rise by 2% after 15 years (3.15% for the second 15 years fixed interest period), the rate would already have to be raised to about €2100 in order to be done with it after a total of 30 years.
Again, I do not want to imply anything, but I am not sure if the OP is aware of this.
3. Regarding the stated house costs, there have been repeated hints that it will not work out financially and one is heading towards a financial bottleneck.
On one hand, because the construction costs are already considered relatively low, on the other hand because there is hardly any buffer for nice things.
And here the circle closes:
A building client who lives the above-mentioned lifestyle will also want to upgrade when building and reluctantly give up things. That is understandable, many - including us - felt that way. But you should counteract it if you still can.
I would simply recommend you to actually live the plan from now on. You yourself said so nicely that the best plan is only as good as its execution.
Furthermore, I would still have offered to see what the same houses cost according to the Energy Saving Ordinance. So no KFW40+ or KFW40 and especially no KFW55. The jump is not from 55 to 40(+) but from Energy Saving Ordinance to 55. I would be very surprised if overall the KFW40+ house makes so much sense financially that it is a clear decision.
As an example: We have about 190m², built according to Energy Saving Ordinance in 2017. Central controlled residential ventilation with heat recovery, heated with gas condensing boiler without solar.
Last year we used about 15,000 kWh gas at room temperatures of about 22.5°. That is - including hot water - about €900/year for heating.
What else can one really save there? That's €75/month ...
Also, the topic of building smaller I would reconsider, a good 170m² is better than some houses with 180 or 190 where some dead spaces arise because the floor plan is as it is.
I do not want to wish you (and probably most of the others here) anything bad. However, I do somewhat wonder what you actually want here? It just seems to me as if you have already made the decision for yourselves anyway and just want confirmation that everything is fine ...
Many here who answered you are already a good deal further along in their planning, consequently also in their experience. That would make me think a bit if I were you.
In my eyes, it is much, much better to sleep on this building project with €50,000-70,000 more. Whether that comes about by a smaller house, building according to the Energy Saving Ordinance, or more equity does not matter ...
I consider a combination of all three things advisable.
All the best for your project.