Monthly living expenses with a child

2016-02-17 11:04:26

Sorry, but your accusations are getting more and more ridiculous.

Keep living happily and always remember: The rotors can injure without the pilot noticing.

It seems that something is already injured in the harmony between you.

2016-02-17 11:13:10

I think child labor is stupid, I get more out of it if he learns and educates himself further, also in sports.

Harshly written, I could retort now: "then your son also has no opportunity to learn about 'life' nor to become capable of empathy.

You are already using the term child labor incorrectly; I hope not intentionally, because then your membership here will certainly become 'interesting' and 'short' for you. Both of our children delivered the church newsletter and later worked as a food delivery courier. Both gave them not only the good feeling of appreciating the value of self-earned money, but they also experienced what it means to be at the bottom of the food chain. Seeing firsthand that education is a high good.

When I read that you can 'talk' to your 16-year-old son on the status of an adult, I have to suppress my laughter. If that is actually true, in my opinion you are already doing more wrong today than _just_ abusing the word child labor. Girls are hardly to be endured from puberty on, boys a little later, but for longer

Rhenish greetings

2016-02-17 11:16:17

But then he also knows that he can get "everything," he is an intelligent child and knows that his parents don't want to awaken desires.

I myself come from a larger family, raised in a socially disadvantaged neighborhood. My parents couldn't give us much because my father was the sole breadwinner.

So we started delivering newspapers at 12, participating in inventories, and then using the money to fulfill our wishes. I paid for my first bicycle myself.

Today my husband and I are much better off. If we wanted to, we could buy our child everything she wants, but we don't want to. She should not rely on her parents' financial situation. We have also been saving her child benefit since her birth. She gladly uses it for her driver's license or similar things. But not so she can buy watches from Michael Kors or anyone else just because her mother also does.

It did not harm us to grow up this way, on the contrary, we appreciate our money and handle it much more consciously.

Your parents didn’t hold you back alone but everyone in the family because unfortunately there wasn’t enough for luxury.
Do you have ? Your wife treats herself to expensive watches and your children don’t get any because ?
If they don’t want any, okay, but if they do, then tough luck! Why isn't it decided together who gets which luxury?
Is this practice just because you can?
Great upbringing.

2016-02-17 11:18:32

Your parents didn't just limit you but everyone in the family because unfortunately there wasn't enough for luxury.
I asked today? Your wife buys expensive watches and your children don't get any because?
If they don't want any, okay, but if they do then you say tough luck! Why is it not decided together who gets which luxury?
Is it done just for practice because you can?
Great upbringing.

Assuming you want to reward yourself with a sports car after years of hard work.
Let's say you want to treat yourself to a Porsche for nice days.

Do you then have to buy two because your son otherwise feels disadvantaged?

2016-02-17 11:18:54

: That's true, I would have to add the cafeteria and daycare meal fees... But even then, we don't go much over 500 euros. My husband often has business meals (which saves money ), and I count the daycare meals as part of childcare, so not under food. But it's about 60 euros per child. They are supplied by an organic farm from the region and receive exclusively high-quality vegetarian food. We were lucky with the daycare and are totally happy.

@albert: I just wish that your children truly appreciate what you give them! There's nothing more to say about that... speechless...

2016-02-17 11:25:30

Suppose you want to reward yourself after years of hard work with a sports car. Let's say you want to treat yourself to a Porsche for nice days.

Do you then have to buy two because your son would otherwise feel disadvantaged?

No, but before I save for the Porsche, the whole family would decide whether we save for my Porsche or maybe rather for 2 Golfs?

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