Monthly living expenses with a child

I don't know what "albert.hagenlocher" means by desires. Of course, the child has to learn that they can't get everything. When a €300,000 Lamborghini or Ferrari drives by me, I also think, "Man, it would be great to own such a car."

Okay, you have an expensive phone, so your son gets an expensive phone. You have expensive cars, so your son gets an expensive car. You earn XXXX salary, so your son gets XXX euro salary.

So no Porsche for the weekend and instead a Golf for you and your son? Here's a direct question from me:

Who is raising whom here?

When is the cut supposed to happen? Will he still come to you at 30 and ask for a condominium or house? You live in a house, so why shouldn't your son also? That awakens desires if he doesn't have a house!
You say he goes to school and has good grades and then goes to sports. I think you and he need to understand that he is doing it all alone for himself.

I received the smallest allowance from my parents of all the kids in the school class. There were no brand clothes. When everyone had the cool Nokia 3010 with Snake, I had a Sagem phone (the cheapest phone on the market). Five years later, in vocational college, I had the world's first phone with a built-in camera. Not because my parents gave it to me, but because I worked a part-time job twice a week. At 20, I bought my first car myself and got a €40 gas voucher from my parents.

I had friends who got everything from their parents. They received the child benefit and the local allowance paid out, plus a generous allowance. Sure, I was jealous and sure, I found my parents' upbringing unfair. Today, 15 years later, I look back and conclude that my parents did many things right.

I get more out of it if he learns and continues his education, also in sports.

Here I sometimes wonder if the youth see it the same way. In any case, as one can often observe, the views of child and parents differ on this. You write, at least that's how it seems to me, that it is more your attitude than that of your child.

: That's true, I would have to add the cafeteria and daycare meal fees... But even then, we don't go much over 500 euros. My husband often has business dinners (saves money ) and I count the daycare meals as part of childcare, so not among groceries. But it's about 60 euros per child. They are supplied by an organic farm from the region and receive exclusively high-quality vegetarian food. We were lucky with the daycare and are totally happy.

@albert: I just wish that your children truly appreciate what you give them! There's nothing more to say about that... speechless...

I know my son appreciates it, I don’t have to worry about that.

Ps: besides, he has so few wishes you wouldn't believe how content he is (except when it comes to the quality of the food, he got that from my wife).

Here I sometimes wonder whether young people see it the same way. In any case, as one can often observe, the views of child and parents on this differ. You write, at least that is how it seems to me, that it is rather your attitude than that of your child.

I would even be happy if he did less sports, but should I forbid him as long as his school grades are good?

Your parents didn’t keep you short but everyone in the family because unfortunately there wasn’t enough for luxury.
I asked today? Your wife buys expensive watches and your children don’t get any because?
If they don’t want any, ok but if they do then you say tough luck! Why isn’t it decided together who gets which luxury?
Is it practicing just because you can?
Great upbringing.

No, that’s not true. My father only drove Mercedes; he thought it was the safest car. But I didn’t get a Mercedes when I was 18.
But that was okay too. After all, my father worked hard for it.

For me it was natural to get good grades in school, and it should be the same for my child, without getting everything from us.

Maybe your "we share everything equally" method works for you, but we don’t want that.

Waldorf, I hear you coming...