Monthly living expenses with a child

There is no good or bad money with us. But you are right that if he were to get worse in school out of laziness, one would have to think about his further path in life, and then maybe he would have to start an apprenticeship instead of school. But bad grades can have many reasons, and cutting money across the board is the wrong way.

By "good money and bad money" I meant the amount, you are surely aware of that..

But then it is not so "selfless" with the income distribution after all, as the grades have to be right for that.

By "good money and bad money" I meant the quantity, you are surely aware of that..

But then it is not really so "altruistic" with the income distribution after all, after all the grades have to be right.

Not generally.
I am still a proponent of a merit principle, but performance can be delivered in many ways.

Yes, in this case I have the view as an exception

But your son didn't get the spelling, grammar, and punctuation from you when it comes to grades, right?

He is now fully independent, I can't understand where you see him being controlled by others. It is probably like that with you, and now you are projecting it onto others.

Often it seems to me that a few here are jealous that there are families where things are harmonious and equal.

Change yourselves and then it can be like that for you too.

You can never have 100% equality, after all, you as parents bear all the responsibility, especially financially, and not your son.

I live in an absolutely equal marriage, my husband does everything I do and vice versa. But the distribution of finances is our business and not our daughter's. After all, we both contribute 50% each and not our daughter.

We also have "only" one child and the day will come when she will certainly receive more financial support from us than some other child, but she simply should not rely on the fact from the start that mom and dad will take care of it...

You can never have 100% equality, after all, as parents you bear all the responsibility, especially financially, and not your son.

I live in a completely equal marriage, my husband does everything I do and vice versa. But the distribution of finances is our business and not that of our daughter. After all, we both contribute 50% each and not our daughter.

We also have "only" one child, and the day will come when she will certainly receive more financial support from us than some other children, but she simply should not rely from the beginning on Mom and Dad to fix everything...

Who says my son relies on that? I am sure he expects nothing from us, he plans without it, and if something does come from us, all the better.

Who says my son relies on that? I am sure that he expects nothing from us, he assumes that nothing will come from us and if it does, all the better.

No one said that, it was my assumption from the statement that everything is shared equally with you and everyone is equal. Then you can expect it if that has always been the case..

If he doesn't expect it, all the better, but I can hardly imagine that if you don't know it any other way.