Thank you for the answers to my questions. The links to the corresponding threads have already been helpful.
Since in one thread the image of a tie-wearing SUV-commuting tourist was drawn: We currently live rather rurally renting (more small town than village), but we have only recently moved here and are not really connected. We spend the day like most of us at work, except for the current home office regulations—without SUV and tie. We also have to commute, like most small town residents. Our desired region brings us closer to our workplaces. However, proximity to the workplace is not the main reason for wanting to build a house—it is rather the longing for our own four walls and a garden. Existing properties do not really appeal to us—if something of our own, then the realization of our ideas, of course within the bounds of what is possible. Building in our current place of residence would also be an option. There are also some building gaps in the area; whose they belong to and whether they can be bought still needs to be found out somehow. We definitely do not want to live farther away from work; commuting time is lost quality of life.
We had hoped that the search for land would be easier. Assuming a functioning (online) market was probably a bit naive...
If I have interpreted this correctly, one has no chance to get an affordable plot if one is not rooted in the desired region. Unfortunately, a very sobering realization.
I admit, we want to live in the countryside and be left alone. Shooting club/carnival club, church and other traditional events are a horror to us, and as a rather introverted couple we generally find it difficult to form relationships. Building new relationships only for the purpose of getting land feels morally extremely questionable.
Apart from the fact that meeting people in the village pub or at the shooting festival is currently not happening anyway due to the pandemic, I think this is not the right way for us to get a plot. That’s just not who we are, and I simply don’t want to believe that this is the only way.
The plan now is first to activate the word of mouth through colleagues and acquaintances and see if something can be found, and also to put up notices on the blackboards of shops in our desired region.
Against the background that prices will probably continue to rise in the foreseeable future, we are not getting any younger either, and if possible want to have the financing done by retirement and do not want to waste valuable years searching for land: What other options are there?